I need some advice. about a month ago i broke up with my boyfriend. We were both totally in love with each other. But my friends kept hassaling me, telling me that he was too old for me. And finally i listened to them. He was devestated. I still love him and i know he loves me still, or at least i hope. He says now that he is in this great relationship with this a guy, and he says he loves him, and wants to marry him. And he wont talk to me anymore because his boyfriend wont let him.
Please if one could give me advice and help me, it would really be appreciated.

I'm afraid it is your loss. It is unfair to interfere now that he is happy.

Be your own person and dont let your friends dictate your life and decisions

I guess you are right i probally should not try and take him away since he is happy, but isnt there a saying that if you love someone you should do everything to get them back?

I think that saying is (or should be) you should do everything in your power to KEEP them. It was your choice, now you must live with your decision.

No... the one i know states

If you love something... set it free
if it comes back to you, its yours
if it doesnt,,,, it never was

Yes it was very stupid of me to let my friends opinion matter in my relationships.

you are probally right it was my decision, and i have to live with the consiquences, and just deal with it

it might not be to late does he know that you still love him ?

No he dosnt

Sometimes you have to love them enough to let them be happy with someone else.

you need to let him know if he loved you like you said it cant be gone love doesnt go away like that hes with someone else because you broke up with him

You what you are right, if i really love him, i shouldn't try and stop him from being happy. Im just worried that wont find someone like him again

ultimately, you have to do the process over again and do the things that he fell in love with you again. Otherwise, you need to avoid getting a bad case of oneitis (the false belief that there is only one person for you who can make you happy).

Hmmmmm......Really???

You loved this guy THAT much when you were with him, you allowed outsiders' opinions dictate YOUR life?

And now, when he has moved on, albeit quite quickly, and is 'in love' to the point he wants to commit to his new partner....You want him back????


Hello???

You created this feast, it's your doing, now you get to eat it...

sad but true.

Learn from it.

first of all you broke up with him because of being influenced by your friends,secondly i believe he isn't in love and the relationship he is in is that great only after a month,he's just saying those things to make you feel bad and regret you broke up with him.

anyway lets go back to the beginning YOU broke up with him.

And I thought being straight was complicated....I stand corrected.