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Topic: More Give? or Take?
Jungian101 Joined Fri 02/27/09 Posts: 517	Fri 03/20/09 08:46 AM
Giver with no expectations

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Fri 03/20/09 08:47 AM
I'm definitely a giver, but have no problem taking as long as there is either reciprocity or I know it's being given with sincerity and no motives. I like the feeling giving provides. But if there is no reciprocity I will start to build resentment.

Grizzly52 Joined Thu 06/19/08 Posts: 558	Fri 03/20/09 08:49 AM
I'm definitely a giver, but have no problem taking as long as there is either reciprocity or I know it's being given with sincerity and no motives. I like the feeling giving provides. But if there is no reciprocity I will start to build resentment. I would have to agree with you completely

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Fri 03/20/09 09:05 AM
I'm definitely a giver, but have no problem taking as long as there is either reciprocity or I know it's being given with sincerity and no motives. I like the feeling giving provides. But if there is no reciprocity I will start to build resentment. Same here. I've always been the one who had to take care of the other person, solve her problems, fix her issues, serve as psychologist and counselor and therapist and lifeguard and taxi and hostage intervention unit. It would be nice to find someone who would give back, just a little bit....

Meg8771 Joined Fri 01/16/09 Posts: 5662	Fri 03/20/09 09:09 AM
I'm definitely a giver, but have no problem taking as long as there is either reciprocity or I know it's being given with sincerity and no motives. I like the feeling giving provides. But if there is no reciprocity I will start to build resentment. Same here. I've always been the one who had to take care of the other person, solve her problems, fix her issues, serve as psychologist and counselor and therapist and lifeguard and taxi and hostage intervention unit. It would be nice to find someone who would give back, just a little bit.... You, too, have the "Florence Nightengale" syndrome. There is a woman out there worthy of you and all you have to offer. I would pay money to meet this woman one day - to see the one that you would fall in love with. She will be a very special lady, indeed.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Fri 03/20/09 09:12 AM
In the alternate universe where I'm childless, that lady is ME ME ME ME MEMEMEMEME

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Fri 03/20/09 09:13 AM


DragonFlyTat Joined Fri 08/29/08 Posts: 3759	Fri 03/20/09 09:22 AM
totally off topic but you do look like Lauren Graham from Gilmore Gilrs Lilith401

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Fri 03/20/09 09:29 AM
totally off topic but you do look like Lauren Graham from Gilmore Gilrs Lilith401 Ha, I had her photo posted as mine all day yesterday....

DragonFlyTat Joined Fri 08/29/08 Posts: 3759	Fri 03/20/09 09:35 AM
I know I saw that

KennyLingus Joined Tue 11/18/08 Posts: 841	Fri 03/20/09 09:39 AM
A giver. Now if I could just find a decent woman who could take it for hours at a time. I'd look like a rabid dog when I got done. Don't Panic!

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Fri 03/20/09 10:13 AM
You, too, have the "Florence Nightengale" syndrome. There is a woman out there worthy of you and all you have to offer. I would pay money to meet this woman one day - to see the one that you would fall in love with. She will be a very special lady, indeed. I've been told that I'm a "rescuer" -- which is true. It's not something I set out to be -- at least, not consciously -- but it happened, I fell into the role somehow, was comfortable with it, and I was good at it. About ten years ago, I met the person I was convinced was "the one." And that's been on-again off-again ever since. Off again at the moment. And I'm tired of the inconsistency, the "I need you" for a year followed by "I don't need you" for a year. But it's hard for me to believe I could ever meet another person who could make that sort of impression on me....

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Fri 03/20/09 10:15 AM
Ignoring my frightful post?

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Fri 03/20/09 10:17 AM
Ignoring my frightful post? No, I'm just formulating a response that will keep me out of trouble....!

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Fri 03/20/09 10:18 AM
Ignoring my frightful post? No, I'm just formulating a response that will keep me out of trouble....! Is that possible? My post was redonkulous.... I'd ignore it too. But I laughed when I wrote it...

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Fri 03/20/09 10:20 AM
Is that possible? My post was redonkulous.... I'd ignore it too. But I laughed when I wrote it... Me too. Makes you think though. Or it did me, anyway....

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Fri 03/20/09 10:23 AM
Is that possible? My post was redonkulous.... I'd ignore it too. But I laughed when I wrote it... Me too. Makes you think though. Or it did me, anyway.... Sigh.....

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Fri 03/20/09 10:35 AM
Do you consider yourself a giver? or a taker? in relationships, in life .. Which one rocks your world? Ive always been a giver. I seem to be with takers most of the time. The few times that I have been on the receiving end of a giver.....I was almost shocked. It was nice.

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Fri 03/20/09 12:38 PM
Do you consider yourself a giver? or a taker? in relationships, in life .. Which one rocks your world? Ive always been a giver. I seem to be with takers most of the time. The few times that I have been on the receiving end of a giver.....I was almost shocked. It was nice. Wow that's so true here too Gypsy .. I think they sense it? Maybe we are magnets?

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Fri 03/20/09 12:39 PM
I'm a taker now, it was time for a change