I was married for 23 years and my Ex had a 20 yr old girlfriend, and then he is seeing my bestfriend now, they are planning on getting married. I wish them well, past them.

Problem is: how do I start trusting men again, I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life. But, it's hard for me to get involved, and how do I trust again.


HELP ME!!!!!!

Oh boy, here we go again...BS

I dont trust men and I am one!

SLEEP WITH ONE EYE OPEN

You may never trust again. I remarried the man who cheated on me with at least 2 women.... I never really trusted him again. It was not fair for me to remarry him because he never stood a chance but I didn't know that then.

Sorry, to hear that.

Got to take the chance..Life is short..

So, what do you really think?

trust is earned, not given.

Keep in mind that not ALL men are jerks. I've seen a lot of women who have it in their head that trust has to be earned BEFORE giving someone the trust they deserve right off the bat. Granted, trust is earned but is trust condemned even before it is established with someone?

Learning from your past and knowing what signs to look for will help you. I wish you the best. It's hard to trust once it's broken but it can be achieved with the right person who is trustworthy.

if one actually trust each word of another, then itself CANNOT be decieved, and true trust OF ITSELF MUST AND WILL EXIST.

it is only but deciding what is true, by what oneself WISH to be true, that can decieve.

all other's words as true, expose any deciet or impure motive, or lie.

it is most the seeking for truth for self, that cloud what is true, by dividing all data in the brain, into two, and where the line is drawn, is controlled by the wants, so when truth is sought for other's, by making the brain accept all is true, then no harm by deception can ever come to self.

the truth lie in plain sight, to what does not divide all words into either true or untrue.

most, these "tells" are ignored, BECAUSE IT IS NOT WHAT SELF WANT TO BE TRUE, so it is denied within self, when it is heard.

the trap of self want above all, ensnare the brain, to take unto itself only what it wish be true, which make it take unto itself, what will harm itself.

peace

fake it tell you make it!

I read that stuff about trust being earned not given and that is how it works in everyday life. You build a reputation and people trust you accordingly. I do not believe that you just run through life trusting everyone. I think that is shallow. You screen your friends before they become your friends and you should do that with everyone, no matter the position they will hold in your life.

Only trust a sandcrab.

he he he they will disapear one day too looking for younger hot crabs.....

You seriously wish your best friend well as she's marries your ex husband of 23 years? I'm not sure I could be that forgiving. There are just some places you do not go, and that is one of them.

You do or you don't...no easy cookie-cutter answer, you either move on and start trusting someone again. Or you fall behind without the ability to trust.

You forgot the proper punctuation. It should read:

Sleep with one, eye open.

The short answer is "no". But there's a lot of men out there (myself included) who don't trust the wimmins either, so I would think we're all even.