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Communication, respect, empathy, consideration, and trust. Do not hold expectations of the other that are not clearly communicated.
The reason why relationships fail is a lack of respect. If you do not communicate with your mate you are to blame for its demise. If you do not treat your mate with respect you are to blame for its demise. If you do not treat your mate with empathy, your relationship is doomed. You can not treat them the way you want to be treated, you must treat them according to their situation, within the bounds of the golden rule. This is hard. Consideration goes hand in hand with all these. Without all of them? There is no trust. |
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 being honest in a nice way always considering the others feelings choosing words wisely
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Really listening to what each other has to say. Exactly......and repeating part of it back so they know that you heard them. Even if you don't agree, it's respectful to at least listen and comprehend. |
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Edited by
therapy30
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Wed 03/11/09 06:18 AM
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What do you think the formula is for good communication in a relationship? I really want to hear these!............lol Dropping the "ego in excess" helps |
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Edited by
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Wed 03/11/09 06:14 AM
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openmindedness to each others thoughts and ideas
honesty open discussion and compromise |
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If you do not treat your mate with empathy, your relationship is doomed. You can not treat them the way you want to be treated, you must treat them according to their situation, within the bounds of the golden rule. This is hard. Consideration goes hand in hand with all these. Without all of them? There is no trust. Wow Lilith.....that part right there caught me off guard. I feel it's worth more discussion. "You must treat them according to their situation". Can you explain more of what you mean there. I'm being dead serious here. |
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Learning from past mistakes...yeah, we ALL make 'em! Deciding that you CHOOSE to love...not just that you FEEL you're in love...with this person, because love may be a feeling, but it is also an act of the will.
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If you do not treat your mate with empathy, your relationship is doomed. You can not treat them the way you want to be treated, you must treat them according to their situation, within the bounds of the golden rule. This is hard. Consideration goes hand in hand with all these. Without all of them? There is no trust. Wow Lilith.....that part right there caught me off guard. I feel it's worth more discussion. "You must treat them according to their situation". Can you explain more of what you mean there. I'm being dead serious here. |
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Wow Lilith.....that part right there caught me off guard. I feel it's worth more discussion. "You must treat them according to their situation". Can you explain more of what you mean there. I'm being dead serious here. Well, sure. I feel that you can't treat your mate the way you want to be treated. For example, your mate might be the type who needs space and to be alone when they are ill. But you want to be tended to and cuddled. So if your mate is ill, the empathetic thing to do is treat them accordingly to their preferences and desires. I think we must get to know the other person very well and to treat them the way they want to be treated, based on communication and experience. |
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Wow Lilith.....that part right there caught me off guard. I feel it's worth more discussion. "You must treat them according to their situation". Can you explain more of what you mean there. I'm being dead serious here. Well, sure. I feel that you can't treat your mate the way you want to be treated. For example, your mate might be the type who needs space and to be alone when they are ill. But you want to be tended to and cuddled. So if your mate is ill, the empathetic thing to do is treat them accordingly to their preferences and desires. I think we must get to know the other person very well and to treat them the way they want to be treated, based on communication and experience. That is so dead on.......and something I tend to forget. Thanks for that! |
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Wow Lilith.....that part right there caught me off guard. I feel it's worth more discussion. "You must treat them according to their situation". Can you explain more of what you mean there. I'm being dead serious here. Well, sure. I feel that you can't treat your mate the way you want to be treated. For example, your mate might be the type who needs space and to be alone when they are ill. But you want to be tended to and cuddled. So if your mate is ill, the empathetic thing to do is treat them accordingly to their preferences and desires. I think we must get to know the other person very well and to treat them the way they want to be treated, based on communication and experience. I agree its good to know exactly how they want to be treated
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Wow Lilith.....that part right there caught me off guard. I feel it's worth more discussion. "You must treat them according to their situation". Can you explain more of what you mean there. I'm being dead serious here. Well, sure. I feel that you can't treat your mate the way you want to be treated. For example, your mate might be the type who needs space and to be alone when they are ill. But you want to be tended to and cuddled. So if your mate is ill, the empathetic thing to do is treat them accordingly to their preferences and desires. I think we must get to know the other person very well and to treat them the way they want to be treated, based on communication and experience. That is so dead on.......and something I tend to forget. Thanks for that! Heather, thank you. |
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I agree its good to know exactly how they want to be treated Yes, but the main thing is to learn it and act on it. That is the hard part. IMO |
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What do you think the formula is for good communication in a relationship? I really want to hear these!............lol Honesty, listening, understanding and comprehension. |
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