I guess I'm asking so many questions is because I'm going through a hard time now and unsure of a lot of things.

I have been the "strong one" since my dad died when I was 7. everyone that knows me doesn't worry because "she's tough and can take care of herself"

truth be told...it's not true all the time. I'm tired. so how does someone give the problems to God and not worry about it anymore after doing it yourself for 30 yrs?

I wish I knew the answer to that

I look at it this way......there are a lot of things that I can control. Those things I have to make decisions about and carry on. If I made a bad decision, so be it....I still did something about it. There there are a very few things that are just plain out of my control. Those things which I cannot "fix" or change no matter how much I may want to. Those are the things that I give up to God. They could be very small things or very large, but if you hold onto them you'll be burdened and it's hard to go on to the good schtuff!

Something a friend said once (although he used it in a different context) has stuck with me and I've sort of adopted it as my personal catch phrase. It was the term "moving on". When something gets me down and I simply can't do a thing about it or maybe even don't want to do anything about it....I say to myself "I'm moving on". I might even say it OUT LOUD (Oi Vey!).

I'm around if you ever need a friend and I encourage you to try the whole "moving on" idea. Just blaze on past the needless worries, do what you can about the fixable problems and just be your fabulous self!!

Just ask him to take it, and don't take it back from him.

ty heather

I know somethings are out of my control and I'm responsible for my actions. how do you stop worrying about other people? example....my sister is bed ridden or a friend in a depression?

One of the best sites that I have to your question, and other questions ablout The Bible is:

http://www.gotquestions.org/turn-over-to-God.html





Bro Clark

When you start to worry, pray.

ty clark. I will check that out. I'm just tired of trying to be superwoman knowing I can't

I think you and I might be similar in the worry arena.

What I TRY to do is this.....do what little things I can for others without compromising my own sanity and family situation. I don't know about you, but I'm in no position right now to be giving grand gestures or taking on the care of someone else, even if I would really like to. I try to make phone calls and other small things as I can to let those close to me know I care. In the past, I gave too much of myself and like you, was always regarded as the tough one. When it came my turn to be helped, no one knew what to do with it and I was too proud to ask. That led to bad feelings. Now, I just try to be as honest as I can with how much I can do and I don't have so many worries over it. I do know that helping others always makes me feel better, so I don't want to give that up entirely. I just have to keep it in the realm of what is workable for me and my kids.
You sound like such a caring person and I'm sure that even just talking may help those that you worry about. Sometimes a visit or phone call makes you both feel better.

You may find some answers there to questions you've had before...

It is a Non-Denominational site... I have checkedf it against many other sources, and have found nothing in error there. It fully agrees with The Bible, and real life...

Take some quiet time, just a few minutes... Just you and GOD... Make that a daily habit... Even just a few minutes... He hears you...

I had to learn about boundaries several years ago when I almost died. I guess I have trouble not being in control and fixing everything. I know I can't fix a lot of other things, especially in others and that God is the One to do it. maybe it's gotten to be a habit with me and it's a hard habit to break

I am relearning and learning alot of this. I was angry with God for the longest time after my dad died. I blamed God and didn't speak to Him. I do know how foolish that was and now I have to relearn everything

I have found that helps. I pray for strength and peace. how do others not have the "problems" creeping back into their heads?

is what I seem to be expecting...to have it wiped out of my memory and heart???? is that the problem?

That's a good lil' website!

I'm not a huge church going christian, but I do believe. Some days I waiver on the "fairness" of it all.

I don't think God is necessarily going to wipe it away for you, more like help you with the ability to move past it and learn from it? I'm sure someone else has a much better answer to this one than me.

heather...we sound a lot alike. thank you for your imput

everyone's imput helps

I guess it's common to waiver and that doesn't mean you are less of a believer...correct?

That is possible... But when you turn things over to Him, it doesn't leave your mind...

It is no longer heavy on your shoulders or on your heart, it's in HIS Hands...

It may not happen as quickly or in the manner WE would expct, but it will be resolved...

so it's normal that worries still pop into your head over it? and that doesn't mean you didn't give it to God??? have I misunderstood the meaning all this time and felt guilty that I find times that I worry over it?

I dunno....I'm sure I don't put near enough effort into it all. I kind of just use Him when I need him.....need to do better at this!

Bro Clark said it right.....sometimes it's not resolved in the manner we expected it to be.

Oh lord, we are alike! Kind of funny that you also feel guilty over worrying..... It's a big vicious cycle all that. That's why I started "moving on".

It is possible that the solution is right there in front of you.

Give it up to HIM, then rest your mind by not worrying over it anymore... Believing things are in HIS Hands... You might be suprised by the simple solution that HE reveals to you...

I can promise you this... You can wear yourself out and become physically ill by fretting over things...

it is nice to be able to ask questions in this forum without the judgements



ty all. I guess it's still something I have to work on and not beat myself up over and not feel like a failure