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Topic: i caught a man cheating
heathersaysgobucks Joined Sun 01/06/08 Posts: 5306	Fri 02/27/09 12:16 PM
I would look honestly at myself and see what I could have done, and could have not done, to have contributed to the situation. That's messed up. If a person cheats it's because they were too selfish and cowardly to admit that they were missing something, and they had no consideration whatsoever for your feelings. Relationships are about give and take, and that includes feelings and communication. If they couldn't communicate that they were feeling unloved or that they weren't attracted to you, they had the responsibility to say so and either end the relationship on good terms or act like a decent human being. Commitments unfortunately don't mean much anymore but they do to me. My whole childhood was screwed up because of those kinds of things so I'd never want to drag that into my future. I'd never cheat on someone, I'd rather end a relationship with a really good person than do that. What she said is not necessarily messed up at all. I'm not referring to the OP's situation, but often we get so complacent in our relationships that we forget to give our partner the respect, admiration and just plain attention they deserve. When they go looking elsewhere we blame them and may not look at our own contribution to the situation. It's never right to cheat before ending something, but it's not always just a selfish person doing a selfish thing. It may just be someone looking for a little support. If someone cheats on me (considering I picked them in the first place) I always look inside myself to see if I played a part in it. Rarely would I be 100% at no fault in the demise of the relationship.

907daydreamer Joined Thu 06/19/08 Posts: 2829	Fri 02/27/09 12:20 PM
no questions, no second chances, no time for excuses, I would be long gone.

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Fri 02/27/09 12:26 PM
ask them how they could have possibly lied about "the operation"

catwoman96 Joined Thu 08/14/08 Posts: 5848	Fri 02/27/09 12:31 PM
I would look honestly at myself and see what I could have done, and could have not done, to have contributed to the situation. well lets see. maybe instead of me giving him sex 2 or 3 times a day, i should have givin it up more like 4 or 5 times.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Fri 02/27/09 12:34 PM
I would look honestly at myself and see what I could have done, and could have not done, to have contributed to the situation. well lets see. maybe instead of me giving him sex 2 or 3 times a day, i should have givin it up more like 4 or 5 times. Either way you wish to look at it...a relationship is always two parts...

trgirl Joined Tue 01/20/09 Posts: 2368	Fri 02/27/09 12:40 PM
cheating is not right, but what was he doing at the store feeling the melons

35TOO Joined Sat 11/08/08 Posts: 10407	Fri 02/27/09 01:05 PM
what would you do if you caught a man cheating on you?? WITH A MAN OR WOMAN???????

catwoman96 Joined Thu 08/14/08 Posts: 5848	Fri 02/27/09 02:04 PM
what would you do if you caught a man cheating on you?? WITH A MAN OR WOMAN??????? does it matter?? cheating is cheating even if it was the dog he/she was cheating with... still cheating

35TOO Joined Sat 11/08/08 Posts: 10407	Fri 02/27/09 02:17 PM
what would you do if you caught a man cheating on you?? WITH A MAN OR WOMAN??????? does it matter?? cheating is cheating even if it was the dog he/she was cheating with... still cheating OK IF I HAD A WOMAN AND SHE CHEATED ON ME WITH A MAN ID BE UPSET ,BUT IF SHE CHEATED WITH A WOMAN I WOULD NOT BE UPSET AT ALL........

Queene123 Joined Tue 06/26/07 Posts: 17056	Fri 02/27/09 02:19 PM
what would you do if you caught a man cheating on you?? WITH A MAN OR WOMAN??????? does it matter?? cheating is cheating even if it was the dog he/she was cheating with... still cheating OK IF I HAD A WOMAN AND SHE CHEATED ON ME WITH A MAN ID BE UPSET ,BUT IF SHE CHEATED WITH A WOMAN I WOULD NOT BE UPSET AT ALL........ WHY!!!!!!!!!

35TOO Joined Sat 11/08/08 Posts: 10407	Fri 02/27/09 02:23 PM
what would you do if you caught a man cheating on you?? WITH A MAN OR WOMAN??????? does it matter?? cheating is cheating even if it was the dog he/she was cheating with... still cheating OK IF I HAD A WOMAN AND SHE CHEATED ON ME WITH A MAN ID BE UPSET ,BUT IF SHE CHEATED WITH A WOMAN I WOULD NOT BE UPSET AT ALL........ WHY!!!!!!!!! I GUESS ITS A GUY THING.......OR TWO FOR THE PRICE OF ONE.........

jtip1977 Joined Mon 11/12/07 Posts: 10410	Fri 02/27/09 02:43 PM
I did...that's why he is THE EX! some men are just bastards with no respect. ohwell, on to the next level of life Yeah - and some women are too. Believe me. It's not just men. In my experience, some women can be unbelievably deceitful. Lie and lie and lie. Even when I have proof and she's caught - nothing but lies.

astrosfan Joined Thu 09/07/06 Posts: 450	Fri 02/27/09 07:43 PM
I would look honestly at myself and see what I could have done, and could have not done, to have contributed to the situation. well lets see. maybe instead of me giving him sex 2 or 3 times a day, i should have givin it up more like 4 or 5 times. wow thats what i was going to say maybe he is very sexual , but that is enough he was a horny dog.. you should of burned his belongings!! iknow i would of.. I iam sorry to hear that for the ladies!! thats not right .. but payback is a **tch

tessa68 Joined Sun 10/01/06 Posts: 1699	Fri 02/27/09 11:25 PM
what would you do if you caught a man cheating on you?? dump and curse him

therapy30 Joined Sat 11/15/08 Posts: 1799	Fri 02/27/09 11:27 PM
cheating is bad.

35TOO Joined Sat 11/08/08 Posts: 10407	Mon 03/02/09 11:27 AM
cheating is bad. YES IT IS........