How long does it take for the hurt to end and the healing begin.
I have A very large hole where my heart used to be.
Feel like I am just going through the motions of life.
Seems like time has slowed to A crawl.
Maybe someone out there can relate.

I do not know how long, depends on you.

If its because of getting hurt in a relationship it will take however long it takes to get over it or start a new better one if not all i can say is im sorry..well im sorry either way

It will take the time that you allow it too. Get out and do things that will occupy your mind, talk to people, find things to smile about....and dance. It is up to you...it can take anywhere from yesterday...to the rest of your life.

how long is entirely up to you. You have had enough of the pain and finally be able to let it go and decide for yourself you're moving on.

The healing starts when you open your heart to another. The scars will always be there but you have to make yourself do without the person that is gone. I know there is nothing but time to heal old wounds but it is true when that special someone gets your time and attention that is when the healing begins.

It sucks I know I am right there with you!

Diane

Diane. I understand what you're saying but I disagree. I think true healing comes from yourself. You can't be really happy with others until you're happy with yourself. You and only you can heal your wounds. Friends and family help. Activities help too. But you really have to learn how to love and be loved and rememeber there are other things that make you happy in your life besides the one person that isn't here anymore. It's not really about making yourself 'do without until another comes along' it's about being happy with you regardless if you're single or not.

Get mad, goes much quicker.

Well it is goin to b when u r ready to let go and try to just enjoy life as it is instead of what was. Once u start trying that your scars wont be so deep in your heart more as a reminder to be safe but also to let someone else in who will treat u as u should be. Good luck

And welcome to all 3 of you

much longer for guys when they are the offended party...Women move on faster and dont seem to hurt as long because there is always some guy out there willing to give their support in exchange for a little attention for themselves...Women expect us to be strong and feel that a guy who cant let go is weak and needs to find a backbone...My X took my heart and my backbone when she left...The only time my backbone shows back up is when someone pisses me off and then when the dust clears it seems to actomatically return to her. My X left 30 months ago and I havent dated yet.

As soon as you are able to get the hurt off of your mind

Suc*s but that's life. You will heal when your ready to, no sooner no later. We all have at one time or another gone through it.

Start picking out all the flaws of the other person. Tell yourself how crazy they must be to not want you. Tell yourself that it is totally their loss. Then keep repeating this in your mind for a good week or so. It is finally starting to work for me anyway. Maybe it would help you. ?

It takes...as long as it takes. There is no rushing it, so that you feel better faster. For me, I had to go through all the emotions....anger, hurt, disappointment, fury to be able to go through all of them till I felt better about things.

It's a process, I hope you take the time that you need to heal.

the hurt stops when you no longer allow it to hurt and when you get past what hurt you. for me the hurt comes mainly from reliving all of the memories and wondering what i could have done differently. it's always good to reflect and learn, but once you learn, you have to stop beating yourself up for your mistakes. to me, that's when the healing begins.

i like this idea too. but the real healing comes in letting the other person go and wishing them well. some people aren't made to be together. when your paths diverge, wish them luck and go about your own business.

you have large hole where your heart was?
hey time will heal it...stop thinking about it...Do not dwell on it...make frequent visit to mingle

Simple formula take each year of courting and relationship divided by twelve times the amount of your day you spent fully involved in thought on improving your relationship square that and multiply by the percentage of heart she surrendered to you.

(R/((D&T x 12)2) )x X?= n
Its just that simple.