I'm a single mother of 1 5yr old soon to be 6, WHY DIDN'T ANYONE TELL ME THAT LITTLE BOYS ARE SUCH ROCK HEADS!

I mean, he's stubborn, fidgety, a barrel of energy, a ball of fire and an attitude that could cause me to call CPS (child protective services) on myself, etc..........

I've already had the principal, asst. principal 2X, and his teacher call and send letters home HE'S IN KINDERGARTEN AND ALREADY HAS A RECORD

what is a mother to do or ..................

....is this why most men are such #@#%%$ holes, it comes from childhood ............ then I am in such trouble

opinions/help/advice is welcome

*but remember, you give disrespect, you get disrespected back!*

idk ....acorns.??????...trees......??????

Im an asshole becuz of my childhood

Welcome to the fun...I had 4 boys two years apart and my daughter...all of them were a handful with more energy than you could imagine. My youngest son was overactive and always acting out. I took him to the doctor thinking my poor child would be on meds all his life...it was the hot dogs! He ate raw hot dogs all the time. The pediatrician asked me to take him off of the hot dogs and any type of lunch meat for 2 weeks....you cannot imagine the change in him! So, you never know...could be something he eats, but it might just be that "boy thing"

Don't know, you tell me, ....

I'm trying and wanting to prevent my son from being one, so I want to prevent it while he's still in his childhood.

HOT DOGS out of all the things I've heard that's suppose to eliminate from one's diet, surely hot dogs was not one of them, but I'm glad to know that you were able to find the source, unfortunately my son doesn't like hot dogs, he may occassionally eat a ham sandwich but otherwise, unless its the peanut butter, I see if that's my culprit

Thanks

I'm assuming you are a single mother. And in my personal experience, I have witnessed that single mothers do not usually reprimand their child very well. This is just from what I have seen, I am not saying you don't. Heck - I don't know you. But if a child thinks they can do something with no repercussions, they will more than likely do it. My girlfriends little boy (6 going on 7) has the same attitude that you say. It makes me boil the way he talks to her and yells at her. And what does she do? She yells back at him........well, that's not going to do it. You need to punish him and stick to it. None of these hallow threats. When you tell him you are going to take his Nintendo DS away - you have to do it. He's not dumb, he knows he isn't getting punished.

Like I said though, that's just my personal experience.

Actually, I don't think there is anything you can do about it. I don't think a man's mother really comes into the equation as far as how they treat women. Its two different things.

Oh, no, this mother reprimands her boy to the point right before its breaking LOL, but NO is No with me, I don't allow him to have is way under any circumstances, but he is strong with his independence and his extemely stubborn, he will stand his ground (at least until he thinks he'll win, but doesn't) I just seem not to get where and how these reactions are from...............

mother just lost????

Sounds to me as if he is looking for attention...and most kids know that being bad is an easy way to get it and they need to know that attention for the good things they do is much more satisfying than the attention they get for the bad things

and let him know that the good things that he does are what you look for. Good luck

Sounds like a job for Supernanny

hell even that would be hard to handle, it's like 10 different one on tv now!

I think your child is feeling the hostility that you seem to feel toward all things male. He doesn't undertand the distance and blame for being his Daddy's kid. Nervous and stressed by the rejection he is probably sad and overtired. He may well have allergies and need better parenting but my guess is he is very tired of being a scapegoat for why Mommy isn't happy. He is only a little boy acting like a little boy. They are rowdy, hard headed, into everything every waking moment.

Thanks for the input.........

and Thanks to all who had their say......

....greatly appreciate it all, good and bad

Sounds to me like he's a little boy who knows his own mind and is asserting his independence. These are not bad qualities for a person to have. My son is the same way, the trick is to channel those qualities in a positive direction. A lot of the time, kids just want some semblance of control over their environment, they want to make decisions for themselves. You say you don't allow him to have his way under any circumstances? That might be a little (lot) extreme and could be he's rebelling against that much control. As a parent, you need to choose your battles wisely. You might consider seeting your own priorities on what is absolutely important (good nutrition, hygiene, education) and maybe let some other things slide a little (such as if his room is not perfectly neat or his clothes don't match perfectly, etc).

And, I do agree with PacificStar, you do come across as a little hostile toward the male persuasion. If that is the case, I would bet that at least some of the "attitude" is coming from that. I could very well be wrong on the hostility, but at least from the postings on this topic, it does come across that way.

I think the most important thing with any child is just to accept them exactly the way they are. You can't really change their nature any more than someone can change YOU.

understandable said....thanks for your feedback