hmm... ask him if he wanted to try a 3sum with another guy

nope...it's normal...and (((lee))) you've asked this q before...

naughty

Now I know what your fantasizing about

Yeah, but theres a lot of new people on Mingle since then hun.

Its only normal to have thoughts and admire beauty. To think that you are the only good looking or attractive person on earth is silly. Why not be open and honest. As long as the person does not act on those thoughts it is fine in my book. Every one of us has fantasies. In my opinion I'd rather know what they are and try to fulfill them for my partner. I'd go to the extent of wearing a wig and outfit if I loved someone. Let them have their dreams all in you.

uh huh...reaching hun???

Thanks for sharing that wisdom with us

If my man checks out another woman and says " how come you don't look like her??" then I tend to get a lil b!tchy. If he learns to keep his mouth shut, he's safe.

Right back atcha Mirror! But I was just being honest.

And gorgeous

Awe...you're making me blush...thanks hon!

Call me old fashioned, but I think a little jealousy is healthy. I don't mind if my guy looks and admires a beautiful body, male or female... I will do the same.

Where I draw the line is if he does it in a disrespectful manner to me. Acting like he's available or making it look like we're not together. Let's say we're holding hands and he drops my hand to make it look like he's available.... (definitely not making points with me) on that one.

It's the same as dancing in my book. If I've been asking my man to dance with me and he's repeatedly declining, making excuses, etc., then I get up to go to the restroom only to find upon my return, that he's on the dance floor with another woman... slow dancing up close and personal... then I am gonna be madder than a hornet. Don't neglect me in your appreciation or "pursuit" of other women.

If we are together, we should respect one another. I dated a guy who would strike up conversations with women at the bar (after dinner) with me on the other side of him... totally ignoring me... his back to me, having a good old time. He'd be buying them drinks using money from our combined budget, and never include me in the conversation or introduce me.

My ex would just about knock me over to light another woman's cigarette, but would not offer to light mine.

It's that kind of disrespect and bad behavior that makes me touchy about his flirting or appreciating an attractive woman. It's ok to look and admire, but cat calls and making a scene over a hot woman, in my book is disrespectful and shows lack of class.

Just my old-fashioned beliefs I guess.

I have also gone on a couple of dates (with guys I've met online) who've done the big No-No. Checking out every girl that passes by our table while he's trying to get to know me on our date.

We'd be talking and his eyes are wandering all around the room, never really making eye contact with me. Just checking out the ladies in the restaurant. That is so rude and inconsiderate. It's one of the tackiest things a guy can do. A quick glance is one thing, but his eyes followed these women around the room until they were out of his line of vision. It made me feel as though he had absolutely no interest in me.

Needless to say, I did not date either of these guys again. If a man can't restrain himself for the short time of a first date, it doesn't look very promising for his future behavior.

It's all a matter of respect and common courtesy.

JMO

Nope....am I supposed to be?

it doesn't bother me a bit

I am secure in my relationship and I know that I compare very favorably with other men in her eyes