My youngest sister is this way! Sucks the life and any fun and enjoyment right out of you.

Yes, before you even ask her what is up?? Let her know that you only have a minute or so. Then very gently end that topic.

Also pick the moment and suggest that she might go into theraphy since she is using you for one right now. If you love her as you say you do that would be helping her since she is needing more than your emotional energy can handle.

I set very clear boundaries in my friendships that I don't allow them to cross or I cross unless a major crisis has occurred in one of our lives then it is only for a short time.

To me friends are there for each other,support and love one another. They are not to take the place of a good counselor or support group.

Ask her why she likes to play victim so much.


Ask her why she needs someone's sympathy, rather than their admiration.

Then refer her to a good psychologist.... and pass on visits for a while.

Friendship lasts lifetimes.... and have an ebb and flow to them...if she is in the negative, then you dont need to know her right now...

Was she always like this?


If so, then you are a rescuer.... and get something out of her whiney whingey ways....

I had a friend like this and we are no longer friends.

You can't let others use you as an emotional garbage can.

Sometimes this best thing you can do is distance yourself.

Absolutely. But I got to the point where that happens even when I don't want it to. If you can get in that zone though, you can look people dead in the eye and nod on time and all that good stuff, while not hearing a damn word they say - daydreaming or doing something else completely.