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Topic: Attitude
FreeToB's photo
Tue 02/17/09 09:12 AM

Thinking a little more about this......

I think people who hold onto anger bring negative circumstances to their lives as well. I know there are some hurts that never really heal and it's hard not to feel anger towards the person who hurt us, but I think if you don't let it go it will destroy you.

I see a lot of people around me who are waiting to meet that special person but all they talk about is how there is no one or no one who is any good. I think it's a self defeating prophecy (is that the right term?)


I agree again. Not getting angry is the best thing but letting go of negative feelings and anger is next best.
I see the same people who do not have good self-confidence who are alone. Others who think nobodys good enough. Alone. Others who have bad things to say about their exes. Alone.

I think we expect too much or get used to getting important things when we want them..and make bad choices trying to cure that aloneness.

lilith401's photo
Tue 02/17/09 09:28 AM
I think if the world... and Americans most of all... would wake up and say, what can I do to improve myself? What could I have done in that situation to improve or better the outcome?

Well, if we had that instead of blaming others and lamenting woe is me in everything, then we might just gain that peace and understanding we'd all like.

Not to mention the nice guys threads would go away....laugh

DragonFlyTat's photo
Tue 02/17/09 09:34 AM
To be positive you have to think positive.

Ruth34611's photo
Tue 02/17/09 09:35 AM

I think if the world... and Americans most of all... would wake up and say, what can I do to improve myself? What could I have done in that situation to improve or better the outcome?

Well, if we had that instead of blaming others and lamenting woe is me in everything, then we might just gain that peace and understanding we'd all like.

Not to mention the nice guys threads would go away....laugh


Looking at yourself and taking some of the blame is the hardest thing in the world to do. But I have found that once you do it is the most freeing and empowering thing you can do.

lilith401's photo
Tue 02/17/09 09:36 AM

Looking at yourself and taking some of the blame is the hardest thing in the world to do. But I have found that once you do it is the most freeing and empowering thing you can do.


Well, it definitely lets you laugh at yourself more... which is key to humility and self-awareness, IMO. Plus I am an idiot sometimes....laugh

Ruth34611's photo
Tue 02/17/09 09:49 AM


Looking at yourself and taking some of the blame is the hardest thing in the world to do. But I have found that once you do it is the most freeing and empowering thing you can do.


Well, it definitely lets you laugh at yourself more... which is key to humility and self-awareness, IMO. Plus I am an idiot sometimes....laugh


We all are at one time or another. :wink:

lilith401's photo
Tue 02/17/09 09:51 AM
Of course... but this way I can be proud of it and turn it from an "area of development" to an actual strength....

Or wait, is that just rationale? Translation: manipulating the truth. Translation: lying.... preferred description: framework....


laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

Sorry I am just amusing myself to NO end....

Ruth34611's photo
Tue 02/17/09 09:54 AM
slaphead laugh

MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 02/17/09 09:56 AM

I believe that attitude is the most important thing in the whole world for living life. Do you believe that you will never get what you want/need? Do you believe that men/women are generally bad and you'll never find the one? Do you believe that you'll never get a better job? Do you believe that you're not worthy of everything good in this life? I'm not asking for anwers to these questions, I'm wondering if you think that your position on these determines how your life plays out.

I believe they do.
flowerforyou I try to have a positive outlookbigsmile

mark77's photo
Tue 02/17/09 10:00 AM
Happiness starts with self!!!

no photo
Tue 02/17/09 10:01 AM
Attitude is a huge thing. If you go around thinking you'll never get anything or never be able to do anything, you're going to make other people think the same way about you.


Ruth34611's photo
Tue 02/17/09 10:04 AM

Happiness starts with self!!!


Welcome to the forums. flowerforyou

longhairbiker's photo
Tue 02/17/09 10:06 AM
I have a wonderful constructive positive creative loving happy attitude.........on friday.

mark77's photo
Tue 02/17/09 10:15 AM
thanks!

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