Most people of both sexes I have met recently have responded to absolute honesty with wide eyes and the absence of phone calls.

Absolute honesty is not just something for the person you give it to - it is a thing for yourself. I have found it profoundly difficult to admit those true reasons for a thing I have done for various people. I don't believe I have ever stopped to help a woman change her tire or carry something heavy without the thought of sex crossing my mind. That might not have been the reason I helped her, but the thought occurs to me.

This is absolute honesty:

Woman: "Thank you for stopping to help. This would have taken much longer if I had to do it alone."
Man: "You are welcome, and I am happy to have helped someone. Before I leave, I would like to say that I am currently fantisizing about having sex with you, and will continue to do so until distracted by a female of your attractiveness."
Woman: "..." , "..." , "..."

My opinion is that women are probably not unlike myself.

They want a man who is truthful.

If I ask my partner do I look fat in this dress I am looking for information not ego strokeing. Does it look like the button or zipper is straining? Is it bunching up over my butt? Is my bust looked pinched in? Is the hem hitting where it compliments the shape of my leg? Or is it just snug enough you think it looks sexy?

True a man may not be well versed in all these factors but he does know what he likes and if the dress is not all that flattering it is nice to know. If I am making and effort to look good 95% of it is because I want it to reflect positively on both of us.

Yes it is nice if you can use a little tact with your opinion but how hard is it to say "Yes it is not the most flattering fit but I like the color and I think it will be fine for tonight."

If I ask my husband does he want to go to the store during a football game I want and honest answer there too. I may have no clue how the game is going, or I may know that his supper is going to be very late, or he won't have a lunch the next day if he waits to go and the store is closed. How hard is it to just ask if it is urgent? Or explain this is a really good game he has a bet on. She asked she didn't order him to do it. If she is pissed the likelyhood is the husband doesn't get that she needs his help.

I think the real thing most spouses are more worried about is are they getting straight answers on issues they are vunerable too. Cheating, money problems, unequal household or parenting responsibilitys, health issues. It is kind of hard to play the cards you are delt if you don't know if you got all the cards on the table. Trust is eroded one word and one action at a time for me.

I don't want some one to pretend to love me or agree to do something then be griting his teath at me and resents what he is doing.

Women put on makeup to improve their appearance,
wear push-up bra's or have surgery to enhance their bustlines,
wear shoes with heels to increase their height....


but they want an "honest" man.