Well actually, that was sort of the purpose. Sometimes folks find it hard to start a conversation and these kind of break the ice. There ARE folks who are hopin to meet someone here and we all started out as strangers.

Those are probably the people I will not reply to. If they can't put a little effort into sending an email, why reply? Not trying to sound mean.

a lot of pay-for dating sites use this kind of feature for the freebie members .. LOL

You're choice.

Ya lost me there....

Another site I was on had the "woo" feature, which is much like the nudge feature. I turned it off eventually.

Sometimes I'm tired and I'll get on here and look around, check out the threads, then want to turn in for the night. If I someone comes along during my browse, I may just "Match With Him" to send a hint of interest. Then maybe later when I'm more into it or have more energy, I might revisit that "Match" and send an email... But I may also get a response from them.

It's no different than casting a smile or a sexy glance in a cute guy's direction while out and about. Because we don't have that initial first glance or smile, the Winks, Woos, Nudges, Matches, etc. are simply opportunities to send a glance or a hint that you are interested.

I think it's just another option we have to break the ice and flirt since we lack that face to face chemistry that usually sparks a date or romance.

JMO