Hi
I'm a shy guy when it comes to starting up conversations with women .

Any pointers??

say " whats the story behind that necklace your wearing?" or ring or what have you.

Ive tried to do that, but i just end up stammering my words.

Find a picture of some owls and point at them and say "Nice Hooters."

That should break some ice...

it beats screwing up and telling her she HAS nice hooters. Then again....


Taste over ambition!

Be Brave and Honest. You can open up with most anything as long as you are not making an azz of yourself or her.

ummmmmmmmmmmm..........


open mouth......move lips.....speak ......


words..........


relax.......


repeat.........









good luck.......

Just say "Hi, name my is Mic. You dance me with floor the?

Say:

You: "How much does a polar bear weigh?"

Girl: "I don't know, how much?"

You: "Enough to break the ice. Hi my name is --"

i do that regularly,

that actually made me laugh

Just relax and be yourself- just say Hi- introduce yourself- stammering is actually kind of cute- use it to your advantage- We are not all that scary- Just be real and dont try to impress the girl you are trying to talk to- Most women can see through that

I just stare at her boobs and compliment her .....

shoes.......


usually works.........

See, its not so tuff... use your low key sense of humor.

Don't think of them as a different kind of animal. Talk to them just like you would talk to any person.

In conversation in a bar or on a date here are some thing NOT to say:

"What is a nice girl like you doing in a place like this?"
"Do you come here often?"
"So what do you do for a living?"
"Do you live around here?"
"Are your married?"
"Do you have kids?"

And basically other interrogating questions. I once asked a guy if he was a police detective. He said no, why? I said because you are interrogating me.

Asking a lot of personal questions is like you are interviewing her for a position or a job.

Once a very rude man asked me, out of the blue, (first sentence) "What do YOU do?" His tone seemed disrespectful.

I answered: "I keep my mouth shut and I mind my own business."

they say picturing them nakerd works ....too

ok, how would I work this one out

Theres a cafe that I go into regularly, (3 times week, same days, same time) due to work.
Theres on girl that works there, really cute, been making very small talk with her.
How would I go about asking her for a drink or something like that?

Exactly......confidence and humor

Just ask her!! say something like- I really enjoy talking to you- we should get together for coffee or a drink. If she is interested she will agree.

its a busy cafe (middle of a city center).
Is there any indicators of actually interest other than being polite.

Dont want to be turn down in front of quite a few people, Happened in an airport once

do exactly what you said...make small talk and ask.