This morning, he reset the refrigerator sensor to fix the moisture control.
Turned right around and replaced the lightbulb over the sink (using me, 'cause he's short).
And took a look at the garbage disposal that quit working yesterday.

He's fidgety, I think.

I talked to him about going to see his daughters, to relocate there and I could get a job in the area so that he wouldn't feel "on their heads" if we were in our own place.
If we do that, then he can keep his secret and just let them be themselves without changing the dynamics of their relationship.

my aunt just passed on the 24th from cancer.we watched her deteriorate for months it was the hardest thing Ive ever had to deal with

I will remember.
Thank you.
This is his "third life" after having married twice and had kids, houses, career, etc. It's not that big of a surprise to him, (he thought).
As for being friends, that began like two roosters being in the same yard. There's a balance of differences as equals; and we've had our differences. We worked our way up to parallel supervisory spots, at a Mission, (neither of us pretend holiness, just being real) and worked at a few jobs together after that.
We knew that this would happen, sooner or later, and it happened to him sooner than to me.

A bond built two through all of life's diversity is quite enlighting,,
what an incredible spirit you both have

I've watched a few friends and relatives flicker away. So has he. I was intending to get a few urns for the apartment, anyway. Timing is a point for me to consider. I know where he wants his ashes spread, because we've talked about that a few times.

I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories

Remember the good times that we had?
I let them slip away from us when things got bad
How clearly I first saw you smilin' in the sun
Wanna feel your warmth upon me, I wanna be the one

I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories

I'm so tired but I can't sleep
Standin' on the edge of something much too deep
It's funny how we feel so much but we cannot say a word
We are screaming inside, but we can't be heard

But I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories

I'm so afraid to love you, but more afraid to loose
Clinging to a past that doesn't let me choose
Once there was a darkness, deep and endless night
You gave me everything you had, oh you gave me light

And I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories

And I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
Weep not for the memories

Fade, the privilege that you extend to me, sharing your song from your thread of loss, is so very much a testimony to your heart. How truly kind and thoughtful you are! (Tears come to my eyes, and I fight them away.)

I cannot be fragile. Not yet.

My heart goes out to you and your friend.

Thank you!

The kindness and supportiveness of the people here is just awesome. It's like having a family, sort of.
Or something.

Or something.

update:
My pal's visit to the doctor came back with the diagnosis that the cancer is presently benign.

Since his grandmother, father, and mother each died of cancer, he is quite familiar with risks of operating or not. Operating to remove the benign cancer--yet failing to get each bit of it--can result in it spreading like wildfire. If he leaves it be, he has time to deal with knowing rather than rushing to do something.

Thank you, each and all, for your support while my friend was dealing with the news of cancer. Your help is appreciated, and I will only know how much it helped as time goes on. Looking back, later, I will see each of you more clearly as the great person you are.

Thank you.

Love & Light