the point in question.. is with the way society is and possible things being passed along... I would say rules a should be set or at least understood.. should I ever actually agree to a relationship of that nature I would rather not hear about who else they hooked up with that weekend the next time we hooked up

honestly I think the idea is flawed...it may serve a purpose..but fundamentally its wrong and if you have no problem being a FWB then you probably don't have a problem screwing the first thing that walks by..so why bother with friendship?

friendship -> trust, honesty, companionship...

but if your FWB has a contract with you..that's a little different.
i've been down that road - it went poorly

maybe my issue is more my personal values sexual monogamy is a must....if for nothing else than for health reasons, however there is a great deal more to it than that

just sex isn't worth the waste of time...

fwb.. great thing why? because you and your friend now no longer go out and meet someone randomly for sex.. your protecting yourself this way and your friend..So when either gets the urge they just call. no strings safe for both and .... fwb should be exclusive for that reason alonme ,if one violated this trust then stop the sex part and just be friends.. been there done that at a friends request it did work for us.

I think you have more chance of contracting some dreaded disease with a date than you do with a friend. After all you are 'friends' for a reason and that says something about you, if your friend is questionable, yes?

As to the FWB .. never been able to do it. I have to have chemistry to engage, and if I HAD chemistry they sure wouldn't JUST be my friend.

Yanno?

I have FELT like a FWB,,,,and That would have been ok, at that time.
But SHE was all about love,,in words only...So we parted.

To me,,IF I seek out a lady to have that with.
As long as we BOTH were open and honest about THAT,,cool.
But many people on here now,,SAY,,they want LOVE,,,but their TRUTH is they only want to feel in-love and do NOT want to COMMIT for a lifetime with another.
THATS just being REAL here.

okay see THIS is the validity I see in FWB, however I couldn't personally do that

I would spend most of the time worrying about whether one party might start to think there was more in it than friends and sex

you have to have a complete unsderstanding between you and your friend.. its just as stated .. no more then that is or will ever be expected.. Its to deal with the urges you have and to stay safe..... to many things canm go wrong just going out to meet someone.. case in point there was a woman here locally with aids.. she was doing every man she could before anyone ever found out... gald I wasn't one of them.. as for maybe it becomuing something else.. freinds it can happen but also it is just what it is...

^ ugh...

there in lies my issue with the whole FWB thing...
when feelings get involved - i find it best to take a
step back and remove the 'sex' element...

lol - those pesky feelings

I don't have a Friend With Benefits because I don't like to share.

I personally won't do a FWB. I didn't know till a couple a years ago what the term meant. I know that many people do it and thrive.
I know I am not made that way for me to be sexually intimate with someone I have to have a commitment that goes way deep since I want it all.