I know there have been a few threads about initiating conversations but this one is different I promise !

I'm talking to a female from here, probably for the past 2 weeks I guess. The question I have relates to the fact that she will never message me. I can message her and she will reply and we will get on IM and talk for hours, but she will never initiate the conversation. The problem is that I'm a hard headed bastard. When I do something over and over and the other person never initiates it almost seems like they aren't interested to me, so I just stop trying all together.

I'm I wrong for thinking like this? Has anybody else had this same experience before?

How long have you waited to see if she might mail you?

She may be shy. Have you told her it's ok for her to initiate a conversation?

It sounds like she is not interested & she is being nice by replying. Move on to the next one.

That's what I was thinking.

Although, she did agree to meet me in person here soon, just gotta drive about 3 hours to get there. Talked about next month. The conversations are great.

I've waited the past 3-4 days I suppose. I'm really hard headed when it comes to things like these though. Kinda hoping she isn't lurking here and see's this thread. I'll feel retarded.

just keep working tru the "mutual matches" till ya get one who will initiate......

Good luck with that!!!!!!! and.....

Enjoy!!!!!!!!!!!

No, no, NO, silly! That's not what's happenng here. Thank Society for teaching women to be passive & "lady-like"...she just doesn't want to appear too aggressive or desperate... But if it bothers you so much...why don't you just ask her?

I would have thought she was not interested, but the fact that she agreed to meet in person changes that thought. Maybe she is just uncomfortable about initiating any conversation. But she just may see this thread and surprise you.

Shine her on. If you're the only one doing all the work, and you're only just in the emailing phase right now, just imagine what it'll be like if you ever start up a relationship with her.

lol, I have no problems initiating conversations with people, but after you have talked to someone for a while you might kind of expect them to take the time out to say hi first some days. I dunno it's probably just me.

try talking to her,tell her it makes you feel like she isnt into you,tell her to be honest if she is not.

Everyone here is right to a certain degree...But if you just don't come out and ask her you will never know.

Better to find it out now how she ticks then waste the 3 hours to see her. Good for you for trying to do the right thing. She should initiate conversations on her own by now...she could be testing you too to see how far you will go to pursue her......Ask her, it's the only way you'll get your answer. If that question was posed to me I would answer it truthfully...Give it a shot....Good luck