Topic: I need help
BigAl89's photo
Sat 01/24/09 09:10 PM
Well the start of this story is me and this girl dated like almost 4 years ago for a really long time. Her parents got a divorce she kinda went on a crazy streak for a little bit thats when we broke up. But throughout the years i stayed really good friends with her. Now when i just got out of my last relationship with someone else i hung out with her and she flirted quite a bit. She said she had a boyfriend but she wasnt really liking him and didnt think it was goin to work out and two days later they broke up. she gives me like clues that she still likes me in that way but im not exactly sure.
If i make a move and it works thats great, but im scared if i do and it doesnt work that it would make our good friendship now a little awkard. Any ideas on what i should do?

Shagwell's photo
Sat 01/24/09 09:21 PM
first make sure she is over her b/f completely! flowerforyou

chickayoshi's photo
Sat 01/24/09 09:25 PM
You really need to talk to her. Invite her out somewhere where you both can just talk. Tell her how you feel, but also let her know that you are more than happy to still be just friends if she is not interested. I do hope it works out for the two of you. It really doesn't hurt to get your feelings out...otherwise, you'd be wondering for a very long time.

shadowprincessx's photo
Sat 01/24/09 09:26 PM

Well the start of this story is me and this girl dated like almost 4 years ago for a really long time. Her parents got a divorce she kinda went on a crazy streak for a little bit thats when we broke up. But throughout the years i stayed really good friends with her. Now when i just got out of my last relationship with someone else i hung out with her and she flirted quite a bit. She said she had a boyfriend but she wasnt really liking him and didnt think it was goin to work out and two days later they broke up. she gives me like clues that she still likes me in that way but im not exactly sure.
If i make a move and it works thats great, but im scared if i do and it doesnt work that it would make our good friendship now a little awkard. Any ideas on what i should do?

personally-im not sure cuz each situation is diff. maybe if you just give each other alittle time-just be friends for abit. each of you search what you're feeling. then talk. maybe bring up small things of your dating together. maybe of each others relationship. don't make it unconfortable tho. make sure you two are ok and will remain ok. if all else-stay friends. good luck and sorry if i give bad advise

willy_cents's photo
Sat 01/24/09 09:27 PM
before going and making a move...see where she really stands....invite her to go to Paris with you and float the Seine, or maybe to Macdonalds and buy her a soda. Then see if she wants to go again laterlaugh That way you can find out for cheapnoway

BigAl89's photo
Sat 01/24/09 09:35 PM
like throughout the past couple of years we were always close but never got involved in each others relationship except like when her boyfriends cheated on her or do something bad i step in with a kinda brother role and solve the problem so to speak. We've both had bad past relationships so i know she isnt into anyone else she made that clear. We both talked about how each other need someone quite normal. Shes a good girl im not used to that i usually date partying crazy girls so its a different setting i guess i like it though it just kinda makes it intimidating. Havent been on a "traditional date" in a while.

hellkitten54's photo
Sat 01/24/09 09:41 PM
Your 19 years old. You need to find someone else, she is an ex for a reason. There are too many girls out there to bother with this one chick.

BigAl89's photo
Sat 01/24/09 09:54 PM
Yeah but ive done that for a couple years not many serious girls but there all party girls and im really startin to realize i have a im rarely sober problem ive partied hard in the last two years and i want to start gettin out of that bad habit. When i hang out with her im actually sober lol its helpin and shes fun too. so i think its a good option for my life.

Shagwell's photo
Sat 01/24/09 09:59 PM

Yeah but ive done that for a couple years not many serious girls but there all party girls and im really startin to realize i have a im rarely sober problem ive partied hard in the last two years and i want to start gettin out of that bad habit. When i hang out with her im actually sober lol its helpin and shes fun too. so i think its a good option for my life.


life is a cycle and you are now going throw phases, the partying phase is getting old, you want to move on the settle-down phase....I have been thru couple of cycles. whoa

hellkitten54's photo
Sat 01/24/09 10:05 PM

Yeah but ive done that for a couple years not many serious girls but there all party girls and im really startin to realize i have a im rarely sober problem ive partied hard in the last two years and i want to start gettin out of that bad habit. When i hang out with her im actually sober lol its helpin and shes fun too. so i think its a good option for my life.


Ok, so if YOU think it's a good option for yourself, why ask anyone on here for advice?

*shrugs*

chickayoshi's photo
Sat 01/24/09 10:05 PM

Yeah but ive done that for a couple years not many serious girls but there all party girls and im really startin to realize i have a im rarely sober problem ive partied hard in the last two years and i want to start gettin out of that bad habit. When i hang out with her im actually sober lol its helpin and shes fun too. so i think its a good option for my life.


Well, I do hope this works out for ya. It's good to have a better influence...your still young...you never know.

BigAl89's photo
Sat 01/24/09 10:10 PM
i guess random advice given by strangers online gives me assurance and have guts to actually do something....

catwoman96's photo
Sat 01/24/09 10:24 PM
flowerforyou flowerforyou I would try to avoid taking random advice from strangers.....i mean these people dont know you..and a little blurb is insufficent information.

jmo.
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