I usually don't do this. I'm normally really shy about stuff like this. But y'all here seem like a great bunch of friends, and very friendly people. Today has been HORRIBLE for me. I know everyone has their bad days. It's normal but I'm the type of person that never opens my mouth, always laughs the hurtful jokes off, and basically let people step over me. I dont know what to do in this situation that i'm in. And it may not seem that important or that big of a deal for anyone but i'm hoping that someone can help, or maybe cheer me up.

I've given up my life to my 16 year "Best Friend" Who thought by getting herself pregnant she'd be able to get out from under her parents thumb but quickly realized she didn't love the father of her child. I left my home, my family to spend every day of the week at her house, since the day she got pregnant. But i'm quickly learning, that they are only using me. She has had her baby now, I know a baby is alot of hard work but she does NOTHING. Her parents come home and look at me and ask why i haven't cleaned their house? They are always making jokes about my weight, about how i look. But being me i just laugh them off but they hurt. Recently, i've started to come back home and become close to my parents again, My mom and I have become close and she was talking about computers and things, wanting to get my something special, so of course i go to my best friend and tell her this, with saying "Only if she has the extra money" So what does my friend do? She goes out and does what i WANT to do, what i DESERVE to do. She goes and finds the computer that i was going to ask for, gets it and rubs it in my face, they've become bossy and b!tchy to me lately. Being the person i am, i've never stood up for myself. What should i do? Am i just over reacting? Being babish? I dont know....
Any helpful advice or alittle cheer up for the night would be greatly appericated.

Thanks.
-Mandy

You moved in with your friend to help her with her pregnancy and her baby and now her parents are treating you like you are their servant.....and worse..... In my opinion, it's time to move out and let them take care of their responsibilities.

Stay home with your parents. Get a job or go to school. And buy your own computer. By the way your on line now.

Get out of that situation immediately. They're taking advantage of you and you're letting them. They are taking you for granted and not even bothering to hide the fact. Don't let them use you. They aren't paying you right? Yr not their employee, right? Slavery has been abolished right? You have free will. Use it

They don't sound like friends to me. I'd move on.

Baby...a one sided friendship is not a friendship. It appears like that you are a convenience that they are taking for granted. Sounds like you see the writing on the wall.

Personally, I wouldn't put up with it. I would bet money if you said "Screw this" and left them to reestablish your life...they would be calling and whining needing help on the bs that they take for granted and try to guilt trip you into falling back into the same pattern of being used.

Whatever friendship you had is just a memory. Sorry Honey. Do what is best for you baby...no one else can do it for you.

Best of luck Honey.

First of all, she doesn't sound like a friend at all. I would never treat my friend that way. Secondly, you just need to move away from them and stay away. You deserve better. I would tell them to STFU and to go F-ck themselves.

I think its time to move out of there. Heres a (((Hug))) for the bad day you had. Kudos for not getting nasty back at them.

Thanks for the advice, I guess just being the sweet, kind hearted person I am, it's hard to just say that to people. I dont have many friends because i've been home schooled since the 9th grade and are working crazily to graduate so i can move on to college.

markc48, I know i'm online now. I have a computer, but it was the fact that that's what i was going for and she went and got it to just be a ***** about it.

ummmm if she is staying there and not paying them dont u suppose she should be doing something?...... there is not enough information here

From what I gathered she lives at home but spends days at her friends house taking care of her friends baby and being ordered around by her friends parents who also insult her.

awwww but doesnt say that does it?

If she isn't paying them, then yes, she should contribute, but apparently her "friend" isn't paying either and she also has a baby. If you think you are grown enough to take on the responsibility of parenthood, you should be able to be responsible for cleaning up after yourself as well. The friend is a loser and apparently came by it honestly. She needs to move on. Plenty of people in this world that don't have the bad attitude that these people do.

Even if it doesn't say that... or even if it's not that way, i would say it's time she invested time into her own life. Time to make a path in life for herself and figure out what makes "her" happy.

Seems she has spent enough of her life looking out for others and what makes them happy.

true... but said her friend is 16 also.. still a minor... and that is up to her parents to choose to pay for or not...since she still lives at her parents house...and they choose to let her... it is their child and their call to support her..or what to do with their daughter and grandaughter or grandson... has nothing to do with the original poster what so ever...

definately true!!!! couldn't agree with you more...

I have no tolerance of abuse.

It has everything to do with the original poster. It is absurd to make an outside person clean up after your slob of a child who is definitely old enough to do it herself. The only difference between the poster and Cinderella is that nobody in the house is related. Besides, we don't know that she ISN'T paying to live there.

Thank you. you understand. That's what my parents have said. but i just hate being kind hearted and not just coming out to say it.

As for, should i be paying them to live there? No. Because they called me when she got pregnant, to come stay with her while they was at work, all this i have done is a favor to them. I have no problem staying home, i dont wish to live there. and i pay for my things, when i want things. They have a older person, my friends father's dad, living with them and it's hard to take care of and old person and a baby so it's basically a favor to them, that i come do this. I dont HAVE too, and im not imposing myself on these people. I've known these people all my life so when they asked this as a favor, i said ok. And i do love them but they've made it clear, they are only using me, as of lately.

So much for home schooling teaching life skills.

Honey if this is your friend you don't need enemies. You didn't get pregnant; this is her consequences not yours. You have no responsibility to be a live in slave in exchange for whatever. If you are attached to the kid the sooner you end it the better for both of you. Wait until you are mid-twenties and have your own.

Your "friend" is not capable of and independent idea so she leeches of you. If you stop telling her your business chances you won't see her screwing up you life or taking your candy before you get the first lick.

Joining a recreation league in your community or volunteering at the Boys&Girls club or Habitat for Humanity might bring some desireable people into your circle of friends.

My suggestion is find a new place to live pronto. I don't recommend moving back home where you will be even more stunted in your developement. I don't think you could cope with the greek life a larger university that has dorms would be what I would shoot for. Until you can get in maybe a live in job as a caregiver.

Sorry you had such a tough day. Good luck. Will be rooting for you.