I'm going against the grain (big shocker there, huh?). If it were me, I would contact her once or twice, but if the contacts aren't reciprocated, I'm moving on. I ain't gonna do ALL the work just to "let her know I'm still interested." Half of that responsibility lies on HER, too.

The walls must come down....

Walk away. It's not worth the pain and crap.

I respectfully disagree. With potential great gain there has to be great risk. I'm giving her a little space but made it clear that not only is she going to be in my thoughts but i'm going to make sure she knows it, without being in her face about it. Yes, this could lead to a lot of pain but for the first time in many years i feel something very strong for someone. This is my year, come what may with her i'll put my best foot forward, there's nothing more i can do.

Okay, there is something no one has mentioned yet. I am shocked, actually.

Until a person is over a relationship, I mean healthy and over it, they have no business getting into another one. This woman is trying to tell you she has no business going there. You need to respect that. If at some point she gets her shyt together, and you are single, well, then that is entirely different.

What you are doing is pushing on a cracked eggshell while holding it over your face. Inevitably, that shell is going to break.

If I knew the answer I would be making a million selling the book on Oprah! Instead I am here trying to get a rise out of someone with my sparkling personality.

I think there are walls plain and simple....people can keep them up endlessly unless a reason to take them down. I have dealt with a lot of people where this is the case. I doesn't mean you have to be all in their face.....It just means that the person with the walls needs to acknowledge.....can't change what you don't acknowledge (thanks phill) One brick at a time is all your asking. Otherwise the walls stay up the resentment builds and no way in hell anyone is going to get through. Hurt is part of life....you learn from it...and you put it in the past where it belongs...But walls are put up so that "They" feel they then won't get hurt....they will and it will be that much harder, the next time for bricks to come down. Then the wall gets so high...well forget it...