once I had a crush on a friend's ex, but I asked him how felt about it first!

like drugs... just say no..

thats just it I already have an unlisted number..and I don't want to have to change it again


my ex wonderful person that he can be occasionally abuses his clearances..and runs intensive background checks on everybody in my family...I can't prove that, but he'll come back and ask questions about my families history that even I can't tell you the whole story too

not to mention my e-mail accounts, school, and bank records

its disturbing and inane

but at least the last two months hes has, minus four or five calls..thankfully left me alone

I'm assuming you're talking about a landline. Any chance you can cancel it and just go with a cell, at least until he pulls his head out of his ass (if that'll ever happen)? Cell phones are way more difficult to track.

I have one of those too, but I need to keep the land line open for legal and business matters..I may just leave it to screening calls though.....

he doesn't ever call my other number..so thats good

Rlynne,

As a soldier with security clearances I can tell you that there are several options available. My first question is are the children his and do they stay with you or him?

As for the background checks well you would be surprised what one can optain legally from Public records, as long as they are not sealed anyone who knows where to look can obtain them.

Yes, but it was pretty clear that I would not cheat, she called me a few times and I brushed her off. After the divorce I asked the ex if she still sees that woman (she was smoking hot) and she got all mad.

all the children are his, they stay with me

the state of texas, his former command, and myself all agreed that was best

we are more or less in the process of finalizing paperwork

ok once the info is sealed he would have to give documented proof to why he was envading anyones info. Yes sealed info can still be read but only during certain cases and it is always noted with a reason.

Ok as for the Children part, you do realize he recieves an addition to his paycheck for the support of his children. Considering they live with you you have all rights to that entire portion of the money.

Also you mentioned bruises he left on your children. This is my main concern and my primary reason for speaking out. Is there any proof taken of these marks? Do your kids say daddy did this? If so his entire military career can be ended.

there is proof and documentation, the child in question was two when it happened and three now, the most you could get out of her at this point concerns ponies and rainbows

with or without children I would be entitled to BAH every month so long as we were married....bah diff is for child support post divorce and yes I know who to call if he doesn't do what he is supposed to and I know who to call if that phone call doesn't work

they will be chaptering him out..the question is whether or not they will include the abuse or just go with failure to complete ASAP, though last I spoke to him he is under the impression its a simple med. discharge

the state is pursuing charges with the abuse case

at this point everything is in the works..its a matter of time and for somethings military values and politics

Seems like you did your homework. Good luck on the future with this situation. If the state presses the charges before his discharge is officialy started then the crimainal charges could be the first reason for the discharge which is not favorable for him. If thats the case then his medical discharge goes out the window and so would his separtion pay plus if he was entitled to any disability pay , he can forget that too.

And just now it hit me that this thread was not for this So in responce nope dont talk to friends of ex's.

eh I always do my homework..and yes as for the original question..it really just bothered me that anybody would do that or imply that it would be okay however innocent or degenerate the reasons behind it

was just looking for feed back on how other people may have handled a similar situation...

thanks though

No problem just tickled a nerve I get when I hear of concerning things some soldiers do and the significant other has no clue to what her rights are.

true that....

I had this sort of situation happen to me quite a few times....where guy friends would do it to current or ex's...however, i haven't experienced the opposite, i.e. girfriend's friend talks trash to get into my pants...man, i think that would be a great experience..

roco