about your kid needing stitches and they don't even ask how they are? I've been talking to someone for over a week now. We were supposed to meet to chat online, had to cancel because my youngest fell and had to go get stitches. Didn't even ask how he was when we talked next. He doesn't have kids. Should that be telling me something? I know what is whispering in the back of my head...I would like some advice.

I dunno, the father of my kids doesn't even ask about them when he calls, wants to know what I'm up too, but nothing about them...........I would probably listen to the whispers....but of course I'm a tad biased

Maybe he forgot.

Talking to someone for over a week is not long, you know.

Those whispers just might be your gut talking to you. And you know what they say about listening to your gut....

Thanks for the advice. I think I will listen to my gut. Just adding the little things together and don't like what I am coming up with.

to be honest, i dont have any kids but i was in a relationship with somebody who did. sometimes you dont even think about it if the child is not directly in your life. for awhile i forgot my ex even had kids until i started making a real effort to get to know her daughter. so i say that maybe you should try to get him more involved if you want it to be a real relationship...

I never considered it on that level...but kids are pretty important.....could you forget that the girl you were talking to couldn't make the last date because SHE had to go get stitches?? surely you would ask if she was alright the next time you talked to her........children are often of as much importance to their parents and if you are getting to know someone who has kids shouldn't that be apparent?

That is my point exactly. I sent him the message and we talked a few hours later. Surely that isn't enough time for him to forget what had happened? Also, if he wants to get to know me, I am honest about my kids being important, so shouldn't he at least have asked a simple, "Is he okay?"

That would have hurt my feelings.

if one is truly interested in another for what the other is, then every word that proceed out of the mouth will be of great meaning, and it is only something not feeling or doing this itself often, that hide such facts as good knowing....

self interest only hear what pertain to itself.....

the interest in anything NEW is maximum in ALL THINGS, and always decline from there......

Well maybe he thought it was obvious that the child was fine, since you talked to him just a couple hours later. If the child were not fine, you wouldn't be talking to him that soon. Common sense. You have only been talking to him a week on the internet. That doesn't mean jack chit as far as a relationship goes. So if I were you, I wouldn't sweat it. I mean, you really don't even know the guy.

I dated a guy two years ago who wasn't introduced to my kids for about 6 weeks. I would offer up tidbits of information about what was going on with them, but we mainly just did the "us" thing for a while.

After he met them, he was nice to them.. But the real shocker was after 6 mos. of dating, when he would be at my house in the afternoons frequently and he would instruct the kids to hang their backpacks up, help with homework, or go find something interesting outside to do with them.

And even a year after we decided things wouldn't work for us, he still remembered their birthdays and brought gifts out. Kids have a way of growing on guys, but I think they need a little time sometimes.. Especially if they haven't had them yet. And sometimes the kid relationship can work to your advantage--places you in motherly light, which, if they don't have any of their own, they might see what they've been missing and want to be a part of it)

He hasn't even met your kid. You want him interested in you or your kid?

I think you might be looking for something to be wrong.....

Listen to what your mommy instinct is telling you...it won't let you down.