I want to know if they are still breathing

I kind of want to know what type of girl she is. If she is all about partying and such, I am not interested. Not that I don't party sometimes, it's just the real wild flirtatious type girls don't click with me.

I have three questions that have to be answered before a first meet,I made the mistake of not doing once and my life became hell.

Do you have a record?
Have you ever had a drug or booze problem to the point of rehab.
Have you ever been convicted of a D.V. Assault.
If you answer yes to any of these nice knowing you..

Love well that takes time to take root and grow.

well said

see if they dont mind u getting drunk and kicking down signs and stuff out front of the bar........ha......my first wife 1988 she did marry me tho......

My first question to myself is "Am I gettin any tonite?" I usually sum up my date in about ten minutes and most times im right."
This question dictates the rest of the nite for me. If i think im gettin some, I wine,dine and do the romantic thing.
If in im not gettin any and I like her I will go for the endearing evening trying to do all the right things and being sincere. Kind of like an investment.
How can i tell if they love me? If any woman loves me in one or two dates im pretty much outta there. Sssssso Long.

Ummmm...if I put a time limit on it that would probably exclude anyone I might meet online/on M2 (cuz chat/forums are NOT the same as knowing someone in person.) Given that I have met a couple really nice people from here that I hadn't chatted much with, I think it just has to depend on how well you THINK you are going to click. As long as you are meeting someone in a place that is sensible (aka 'safe') then go for it!

As for what to KNOW...are they a criminal or something? Going out is how you get to know them!

As for 'love' - oh, Mirror...that is a WAY past a first date declaration, so who can even guess how you'd really know!?


(BTW - did this question change from a how long to a what do you need to know or am I just too tired to be trying to read???)

let me get this straight? before you even ask them out you are trying to figure out if they love you? answer...probably no. Love takes time. IT's not an instance thing....lust is instance...love ummmm...not so much

Find out as much as you can about them first hand. Do they still live at home? Do they have a job, car, kids, ex-wife? Have they ever been convicted of a felony? These are questions that need to be answered. The love issue you just know. When that feeling in your belly jumps when they call or stop by to see you. Small things add up to love.

I would ask them everything that is relevant to who they are. If they don't want you to do a background check on them, then that only means that they are hiding a dirty little secret. So, google their emails to see if they're not scammers, or if they are members of social sites, check them out for your personal safety.

Love is a very strong and intense feeling and you may have to be careful about that. I had been in relationships where my significant others say that they love me, but only when I found out that they were with somebody else. Two of which got pregnant by their other boyfriends behind my back and one of them asked me to raise her child. Another example is when you meet someone online and they claim that they love you, if you sign up to their websites and pay for their services. So, be VERY careful when you or your date says "I love you" because in reality they may only want to get into your pants, take your money, or other things. Get to know them on an intimate level first and if they respect and honestly care about you, then you know they actually mean it.

1 I'd just ask em and
2 I am not in love with them if I am just asking them out that would be lust or just attraction
3 a date is for finding out the information you wish to know

good points,, but if I know their full name or even address? I run a background check before I go into public with them.. WHY you might ask? have you been stalked ? its not plesant at all.... and if I would of done that in the first place I still wouldn't be having problems 5 years later.. sure its "not right" but it heads off those situations.. and its a simple enogh thing to do..411.com to begin with seeif their story matches?

Are they available (i.e. not in a relationship.)
Do they have a problem with drugs or alcohol?
Can they carry on a intelligent conversation?

If yes to the last two...don't ask.

As for love...that takes time to grow.

need to know if they are married, got a girlfriend, if they have a car, and if they would not mind going dutch?

Would know I was in love, when I beginning thinking of our future together.

Are you in a custody battle with your ex and have no outlet for your rage?

or are you taking steriods and feel like a punching bag is not enough to hit on

whoot whoot

everything you can...

they love you when they decide one day they dont want to live another day without YOU in it.......

1 I do not think they love you, if you are just asking them out.

2 No I do not do the asking.

I agree with you