When you are with a man, do you still pursue a relationship/sex with a female? If you don't and are monogomous with this man then I see no need to tell him. If that relationship ends and you begin a relationship with a female, then no need to tell her either. jmo.

okay so i've had a problem with guys getting involved with me just because i'm bisexual. they play the good guy card and everything seems great... then when sex gets in the picture they want a threesome. and when i say no they get pissed, and start pulling away and eventually things end... now i know what you're all going to say, that those guys just want sex... but my question is this: should i stop letting guys know i'm bisexual? im not ashamed of this at all, and i'm very sure of my sexuality. i dont want to hide it... but is that the only way of ending this sexual stupidity?

i am monogomous... but some guys find out about my sexuality on their own.

i never have this problem with the girls.

Agreed. I don't even see the point of bringing up being bisexual. This is strictly my opinion, but telling a man you are bisexual is either a) for shock value, b) because you think it sounds cool or c)so he knows you dig chicks and it may make him want you even more.

Perhaps you are telling them for another reason, I don't know. How they "find out" is another mystery but to me it implies that you aren't sure of what you really want so you are keeping your options open.