Why? Unless there is a serious relationship in bloom and there are serious issues that need to be addressed for a healthy relationship?

Just be willing to listen

My opinion on this is, the man and woman should not talk about the ex's.

Huh? Wha....? Yeah, of course I'm awake.

it usualy has good times and bad times
so if you want to be careful
if she wants to just listen
and note things that he f*cked up on
so you dont repeat his mistakes

encourage no...if she feels she needs to tell me something about her ex then i'll listen,as long as it isn't a documentary

communication in all aspects of your lives is important,

i wouldnt exactly say encourage it but if she has children and the ex or ex's in some cases are a part of their lives it would be a good idea to know a few things about them and where the relastionships stand are they civil did they part on good terms,

i def. wouldnt encourage to talk about exe's that did something terrible to them or hurt them really bad. that might just make them think about everything in the past they have worked hard to overcome

If she offers let her talk but don't bring it up if she doesn't.

I would tolerate it once or twice but thats it. Some women actually think you like to hear them talk about their former lovers.

I believe the past is the past and an ex is an ex for a reason. Why bring up negative emotions????

Ditto. That or she says her ex is her "best friend". That's when I ask for the check.

Honestly I say get everything out in the open but don't get into real specifics like say for example "they were the best flip ever, and noone will ever compare"
They are a part of who you are but not apart of the future you have with the new person in your life.
Let sleeping dogs lie if you don't want any trouble.

I don't want to know about his ex girlfriends, so if I really like my guy, I am not gonna disrespect him, and talk about my ex boyfriends.
It's just not cool.
Not sure if a guy is really turned on or impressed with a woman that talks crap about her ex boyfriends..and they definitely don't need to hear about how sweet the ex was either. Either way, its better left unsaid.

well said

I just met someone on here and the first phone call all he did was babble on about her.. I did not care to hear all that. The whole focus was on her and him.
If you want to know just ask...

I think we all will and have referenced an ex in conversations,,,and thats not a problem at all, but SOME will ALWAYS bring their ex up,,,and THAT can be a problem,as their NOT over them yet, really. Wink..
Communication is my true way to be in any relationship.
If you BOTH have that,,ANYTHING can be talked about and both opinions
will be discussed and open...I don't have ANY secrets and I feel they shouldn't FEEL that they need to have them with me..through time anyway,wink,

I also don't feel that ANYONE needs to feel PUSHED into details or pasts that they DON'T WISH TO DISCUSS....we all live forward,,and what is behind us all, was PART of who we have become for today.