How ? AB

Because men have this prevalent sense of entitlement these days, I
sometimes worry about it, too. But I get over it. And if he expects
something out of it, too bad, so sad. He'll get over it, too.

Hmm..tell me...when did merely asking someone out become illegal?

i prefer a nice inbetween...i like to call it........"chugal"

and some days....when i am a bit frisky......i like to re-christen
it......

"freap"

But seriously, a date is a special occasion......so it should be okay to
throw a few extra bucks in it.

I go for coffee & then a pontoon ride. Great place to converse & relax.
Life is to short to play games. Used to be spend a fortune for dinner &
a show. Don't go there till I'm sure3 there is an interest. Agree
w/jean, I ask you out = I pay the bill; you ask me = you pay.

personally, I'm talkative, and so a movie date to me says "we've got
nothing to talk about"

Then dinner/coffee, it's simple... you go for coffee, and if you're
getting along, you'll go for dinner, otherwise, you can bail with no
hard feelings. I have no problems doing either coffee or dinner
really...

If you want someone in your life, take charge not caution, of the heart!



Yes, internet caution blah blah.....

But if you don't take chances who's going to do it for you?



Who rejects you AB......?

And ask them Y.....for future info. Just a thought

It doesn't have to be a fancy dinner, to enjoy the conversation
geeezzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!

Greasy spoons are great for meeting.

I personally will not take a walk or go on a boat with someone I am
meeting for the first time.......



Nada not smart .......

Now there, ya need some caution..

In my case anyway.

Well since I ain't shy...
and I spent friday n saturday alone.
and I am alone right now.
I reckon....

All of them.

Well, All of the ones I asked.

For a first date, even coffee can be sheer torture if you don't like the
person ...especially if you've discovered something about them that
wasn't evident in previous conversations.

For me, a coffee date is sheer torture anyway...you don't EVEN want to
see what coffee does to me. LOL.

To me, a movie date is a perfect first date, particularly if you've been
talking via email/IM/phone. You already know a lot about the person; why
do you need to spend a lot more time talking? You can always talk later.

And matinees aren't that expensive and you can always go Dutch.

Some of the advantages of seeing a movie is if you don't like the guy
(or vice versa) you can make sure one hand is on your drink and one on
the popcorn AT ALL TIMES. Make sure your eyes stayed riveted to the
screen and act VERY interested in the movie no matter how boring you
might find it.

Alternatively, if you're really into each other, you'll spend most of
the time sucking face and feeding each other popcorn, and ...what's the
name of the movie, anyway?

***

A pontoon boat ride would be heaven (if you've already gotten to know
each other a bit).

cheers

Jean, a pontoon ride in the middle of the midwest, is a good frst.
meeting. Pick the lady up at the country club dock & enjoy. I ALWAYS
make sure the LADY feels safe!!!
Stepdaughter in law enforcement, know way more than I need to.

OS, my ex husband and younger brother have both been cops for about 20
years now, as well as other family members and also several men I've
dated...plus I have a fascination for criminal forensics (have studied
it informally for many years), not to mention having been the victim of
rape and, later, of an armed robbery/assault. (Although that's not the
criminal experience I had wanted to obtain ..yikes.)

oldsage your gonna have to step out of your comfort zones.....


If your really looking for dating and meeting that special someone...


Just a thought.

Well, Whisper, I've never sent an email to an ostrich before....

I agree with korangen that movies give off a bad vibe -- like we don't
have anything to talk about. I also, to my surprise found that first
meetings in bookstores were not a good idea! I would start looking at
books and get sucked in...very insulting to the lady, I was informed
(via frigid email the next day). But then, I'm a book nut, what could I
say?


Oceans

movies can be very romantic.........


Just use your imagination with light touching etc.....



Don't underestimate a movie to cry or laugh together @.


It can be a great date.

The zoo is great too! your safe in public etc....

So is roller skating flirting and holding on for dear life..

falling and laughing having fun.......oooooooooo

So many great things to do besides a walk or a drink........

korengan.............raspberries for you.lol


simple simon.......says.......

btw hi oceans lovely to see you

I come from a little different perspective. Being a basically quiet
person, I like to go to a movie. Then afterwards get something to eat.
The movie gives you something to talk about to get the ball rolling.
After that it either clicks or it doesn't.

A short as possible first meeting, a walk round a busy park and visit to
a cafe in the middle of the day is fine by me on the first date.
When you have contacted someone over the internet I have found it is
always difficult seeing them for the first time.
As to who pays, well the rule now seems to be whoever asked pays.

gamail good point.


illiusion, I feel what your saying,

sometimes I like them, to be short and sweet too,

but......sometimes ya gotta step out of the comfort zone.


JMO