There most definitely is NOT someone for everyone. If there was, we'd all be properly hooked up instead of having to go through the crap.

Most people are either destined or just plain unlucky enough to end up being a crazy cat lady or a hermit in a log cabin somewhere.

Yes, but...


I think it starts when we realize at a particular moment, that we are not a someone for anyone, and chose to make a change. Sometimes it's a simple matter of attitude adjustments, and sometimes there's a defect of character that needs to be addressed. Whatever it is, usually it is a pattern of behavior that is destructive to relationships and most of the time, it's repairable.

A half decade ago, I was not marriage material, even though I honestly believed I was. I also haven't proven to have a successful track record in this area, which could suggest room for improvement, and at minimum, better selection criteria. Among the things I did right, however, was to spend each day thinking and doing things that were giving, and that part works well in friendships as well. I've already seen proof that my mate is out there, at least as evidenced by attractive qualities in others, such as selflessness, empathy, veracity, and kindness. The real trick is to find it closer to home, and here, that is quite a chore.

alone forever here

I dont play well with otheres,and dont know how to share

I think you need to be open to the possibilities. Ive known people to self prophetize, e.g. saying that they will be alone forever and have.

Yes, I believe there is someone for everyone.

As far as the second question goes, a good friend of mine once told me, "Everyone is carrying a bag of chit around. In order to have a relationship, you have to decide if you want to help them carry their bag of chit or not." So, people are only alone because they have chosen not to help someone carry that bag around just yet.

not true

Some people's devotion outlives the time when a deep/long love ends...and being alone is their chosen destiny.

Some people's pain/fear outlives the time when their love went bad...and being alone is their chosen destiny. By avoiding being burned again they sacrifice the warmth of commitment.

Others have simply given up on the whole complex mess of trying to make two lives blend with what is left from decades of experience.

Each of these fine people make good neighbors, or even good friends. Cherish what you've got, IMO.

I would say it's a belief we have all been taught since we were little. Is it true? Sadly no. A person that does nothing but sit in his/her house all day isn't going to have "density" jump through a window and carry them away.

There are many people in the world that are "compatible" to you, but you have to find them.. and sort past the rest as you go.

As far as being alone forever? You came in alone, you will go out alone. It's what you make of the time you are actually here that matters.

<---sits at home........waiting for the aliems to arrive!!!


So far its worked.......you guys are here!!!

Lol i guess to some degree this is "looking", was more refering to the people that do nothing while sitting at home. Hello TV, i lub you TV, omg get the fvck out of the way of the TV!! kinda people..

So rumor is butter gives you a fat A$$? i read it somewhere.. care to comment?

I don't think there is just one someone for everyone but actually many. What is the biggest barrier to meeting those people is the notion of finding the perfect person that doesn't exist. That many work harder at finding the right one than BEING the right one holds a lot of people back. The ATTITUDE that someone just has to accept you as you are is a brick wall that keeps many people alone. Relationships and especially marriages are blending and bending together.

I dont play well with others so there is no one

Lies, Pickles go good with tons of stuff!

If you really didn't play well with others.. you would of been an eggplant!

I believe....but do not quote me, that butter and marg have the same fat content??? or is that cholesterol???? Im all confused now...

I have friends who believe their tv is their friends....but then again I talk to a computer.....I love my computer. If I could have more ram I would!!!
Ive been single for awhile because I needed to be single....I needed to think, learn, analyze, get over...regroup and restart. There are some who are destined to be one......I could be one of them but I choose to want more. And love is really a choice.

Dang, Moo. I couldn't have said it better.

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<------throws herself on her bed sobbing into her pillow!!!

Sounds reasonable and a smart move on your part. I wish i had done that a couple of times, instead of picking up a rebound.. rebounds never seem to go well

I also think, as OC said......some people do not play well with others.

Some have a hard time sharing.....space, time, love, things with others. Some have had a hard life, and in love as well.

you just need more cats!