How can you do the right thing when starting to date someone and a holiday is thrown in the mix?
I was talking to a woman before Christmas, had dinner once and she wanted me to go the her families house on Christmas. It kinda freaked me out. I politly declined her invitation as I all ready had plans with my family. Then the same on New years she invited me to her sisters knowing I had plans with my girls. Now she wont talk to me. So I just took it as oh well wasnt meant to be.
Is there any time in between when people can get aquainted without the presure of what to do on the holidays?

In a word, no. The holidays are teeming with awkward moments, embarrassing stares (mostly at you), and people rubbing their chins in consternation wondering why you've just done what you did. And that's when celebrating with family- just imagine how many times all that awkwardness would be magnified when the one you're dating gets involved.

Hang in there pal...
I blew one over the Holidays too...
just hop on the bus Gus...make a new plan Stan!
Just listen to me...

I don't think she should have stopped talking to you because you were not inclined to be bamboozled by her family so early in the relationship.

I think there should be meet when you have no family obligations within the holiday period..even if its Christmas shopping or a light lunch/coffee to get away from all the calamity..that is ones family on the holidays...

It probably depends on the person, but....I'd much rather the "us" got to know each other before meeting the family regardless of the season

Yes. June and August are pretty much the only months out of the year that don't have any actual holidays. Timing is everything.

I have to be in serious relationship before I bring someone to my family get-together at Christmas.

Sorry that happened to you.

First of all I am surprised someone that has only had one date would be inviting someone to family get togethers over the holidays. Just not my style nor is it anyone I would be interested in dating. I might invite someone as a friend if they had no other plans.
Her knowing you had plans with your daughters over New Years and throwing a fit and not talking to you is plain dumb, and selfish in my book.
That is like a two year old saying fine you won't do what I want I am taking my toys and going home.

I think instead you should be thanking your stars you are well rid of this woman. I mean if she is this demanding and clinging from the start can you imagine how she would be in let's say 6 months.

Run Quick!