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So my boyfriend and I have been together 8 months and have yet to see each other! And its sad but my parents pretty much control my life until im done with school since they are paying for it! So I asked my parents if they would be ok with me staying with my boyfriend and his family over spring break! He lives in Florida and we could go to Disney World! and right now im distraught bc I want to see my boyfriend so badly (and by that time it will have been 10 months) but I also do not want to upset my parents by going against their will! I wish there was just a way to get them to trust me or to meet him ahead of time so that they can trust him (but i dont think money will allow that) I just dont know what to do!
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Webcam....easy way for them to meet him and gain his trust....and remind them that they should have trust in you. They are only watching out for you because they love you so much, so give them credit and find ways for them to be introduced to him....put them on the phone when he calls, the cam....hope they come around...but if they don't...maybe he can come to you during your break
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If you're grown up....be a grown up and do what you choose to do.
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Thanks! I have kinda tried that and it works for my mom, but my dad refuses to accept our relationship because we met online! But i will definitely try it!
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If you're grown up....be a grown up and do what you choose to do. Thanks! and I have decided thats what I wanna do! I just dont want to upset the parents, but right now either way I choose someone will be unhappy! |
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you are responsible for ur happiness not anyone elses that includes your parents, your an adult i assume and yes while mommy and daddy are paying for college they have to realize ur still an adult. are you working anywhere? if not , try getting a part time job and if you havent already check into grants and loans for school..
but in the end , u can only control your happiness , no one elses |
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So my boyfriend and I have been together 8 months and have yet to see each other! And its sad but my parents pretty much control my life until im done with school since they are paying for it! So I asked my parents if they would be ok with me staying with my boyfriend and his family over spring break! He lives in Florida and we could go to Disney World! and right now im distraught bc I want to see my boyfriend so badly (and by that time it will have been 10 months) but I also do not want to upset my parents by going against their will! I wish there was just a way to get them to trust me or to meet him ahead of time so that they can trust him (but i dont think money will allow that) I just dont know what to do! Take them with you |
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you are responsible for ur happiness not anyone elses that includes your parents, your an adult i assume and yes while mommy and daddy are paying for college they have to realize ur still an adult. are you working anywhere? if not , try getting a part time job and if you havent already check into grants and loans for school.. but in the end , u can only control your happiness , no one elses Yes Im getting a part time job when I go back to school! Its not much but I know several people who are paying for school on their own! Thanks for your help! |
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good luck
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I really think that if he came to visit you and stayed in a hotel room - alone..... he could meet your parents and he may even win their trust.
Then, they may be more open to you staying with him and his parents during a semester. You are an adult, legally, but they are just looking out for you. I met someone online a few years back with whom I thought I fell in love with. He kept making promises to come to see me and it never happened. He was just another bum looking for fun online. So it is good to be cautious until someone makes a move to visit and shows their true intentions. Some people get a thrill by "dating" someone online and never meeting. And it's hard to know their motive and true identity, etc. Just be careful before you make any moves. See if he can come for a visit to meet your parents. Then you will know the degree of his sincerity. Trust me... I believed that we really had something, but it turned out it was all smoke and mirrors. Be careful. |
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If you're grown up....be a grown up and do what you choose to do. Thanks! and I have decided thats what I wanna do! I just dont want to upset the parents, but right now either way I choose someone will be unhappy! I understand your dilemma....more than you know. But ultimately, you cannot let your parents control your choices. It is perfectly wonderful to get their advice....but it's important that they understand that you are an adult now and they should start treating you as one.  I'm sure you will make mistakes....but if you take their advice seriously (and trust me...they may just know something that you don't about life) I think you'll be ok. A super terrific compromise might be to have him meet you in your town...close to your parents where they can meet him too. Just a thought.
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I really think that if he came to visit you and stayed in a hotel room - alone..... he could meet your parents and he may even win their trust. Then, they may be more open to you staying with him and his parents during a semester. You are an adult, legally, but they are just looking out for you. I met someone online a few years back with whom I thought I fell in love with. He kept making promises to come to see me and it never happened. He was just another bum looking for fun online. So it is good to be cautious until someone makes a move to visit and shows their true intentions. Some people get a thrill by "dating" someone online and never meeting. And it's hard to know their motive and true identity, etc. Just be careful before you make any moves. See if he can come for a visit to meet your parents. Then you will know the degree of his sincerity. Trust me... I believed that we really had something, but it turned out it was all smoke and mirrors. Be careful. Hes willing to come here just money is too tight for both of us! But we have been thinking of ways to come up with the money! I know he is sincere, I just need my parents to realize it 
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If it were my daughter and she knows the rules and chooses to accept them by living in my house, I would have a hard decision to make when she chooses to go against the house rules.
You might prepare yourself for the real adult world if your Dad chooses to set his adult daughter free. It is possible for you to take responsibility for your life. Go to school, get a job, rent an apartment. Thereby, you would have no one to answer to, but yourself, imho. |
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Thanks everyone!
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