You convince a workaholic partner to put more time and energy into a relationship or marriage?

cherish any freetime ya'll have together

Other than just explaining to someone what you want/need from them and telling them how their behavior hurts you and the family, you can't. they will either listen and try to change or they won't.

If you figure it out, please let me know.

Ask them if they will live forever.

Ask them what is more important, work or love?

Ask them if their behavior is fair.

Ask them if they died tomorrow, would they regret the time they spent away from you to have that extra dollar they won't be able spend on you because they will be dead? Was it worth it?

First you must know the reason this person is a workaholic. Not think you know but know. Is the boss truly putting pressure on this person, is this person doing what is loved? is this person trying to stay away from home? Is it one of those 24/7 jobs? Is this person trying to keep a job in a bad economy? Once you know the real reason (and that may take stealth mode) then you can figure out whether it is justified to try and make more family time. I am a workaholic. I have worked for all the reasons above in different times in my life. figure out the first question that you should be asking, why is this person a workaholic? Then work on adapting yourself, or finding an interest that will take your workaholic away by their choice. We can only change ourselves we can't change anyone else. We can only inspire.

You can ask them all that. But, if you ask them more than once you are just nagging. If you are with someone who is a workaholic than you should either accept it or leave them.

I side with this one...more or less make your complaints/concerns known in a non accusatory fashion...be sure to include compliments so they don't feel as though you are unappreciative or merely cutting them down ...but in the long run they will chose to listen or they will not..and there is nothing you can do to make them change negligent patterns of behavior, they have to want to change

Totally agree. Once you have your answers to these questions, you must decide. But sometimes the workaholic doesn't realize what they are doing. I think the conversation gives them a chance for some insight.

You can't convince. You can encourage. I could site some examples of encouragement, but it would probably throw this whole thread into the sex and dating forum and I've got a headache.

Give him a paycheck!!

Tips To Manage a Workaholic Partner

1) Make sure he/she keeps her personal life and professional life at a distance. And do not allow him/her to blend them both together.

2) Ask him/her to finish office work at office. And convince him/her not to bring work home, if isn’t an urgency.

3) If he/she has to finish some work over the weekend then allot certain time of the day when he/she can finish his/her work.

4) Try to take out time for just two of you or family together. You can also Plan out a good lunch or a dinner. Then she will have to take out time for you.

5) Buy tickets to a game or a movie he/she wanted to go for at weekends. You both will enjoy each other’s company a lot.

6) Become his/her gym or morning walk companion. In a way you both can spend a quality time also together and keep a check on health too.

7) Encourage him/her at intervals and support her in her business or household jobs. From time to times advice him/her on various issues.

You also can go out for late night long drive. There you both can talk which is very important for any relation to be happy and long.

9) Be patient and understanding with him/her. With time you will be able to change it. It's habit more then anything.

Remember that Life is not always perfect but adjusting and cooperation with those we love the most can really help both of you together and may solidify your relation. So don’t worry just make little efforts and see him/her change….

10) If all else fails threaten to leave.

I like that one.....that might work...

Call his boss and get him into trouble.

ahhhhhh goof I don't know about that one...lol

Promise him bj's after work so he comes home sooner?

Give him some incentive, and make it clear cut. Obviously I don't know your man but if you send a concrete signal then he should pick up on the hint.

EDIT: Or do the above.

Ahhhhhhh! You know the true way to a man's heart.

i like that idea !