Topic: Does romantic love require a sexual attraction?
Shagwell's photo
Wed 01/07/09 12:35 AM


this is a hypothetical scenario and a special circumstance, we are not talking about disfigured or dismembered! noway


right.
I'm talking about things that lessen your attraction to a person.
it could be anything.
a person gains weight
loses their hair
boobs sag
butt droops
and on and on
at that point you have discovered other things about them that make them attractive to you.
making physical attraction less of a requirement for romantic love.



I just hope it's not going to happen to me, I want that attraction 20 years later the same as the very first time, and I am going to make sure of that!

907daydreamer's photo
Wed 01/07/09 12:38 AM



this is a hypothetical scenario and a special circumstance, we are not talking about disfigured or dismembered! noway


right.
I'm talking about things that lessen your attraction to a person.
it could be anything.
a person gains weight
loses their hair
boobs sag
butt droops
and on and on
at that point you have discovered other things about them that make them attractive to you.
making physical attraction less of a requirement for romantic love.



I just hope it's not going to happen to me, I want that attraction 20 years later the same as the very first time, and I am going to make sure of that!


that is kind of sad to me.
I can't wait for the kind of love that comes from respect and dedication.

sexi_bytch33's photo
Wed 01/07/09 12:40 AM



this is a hypothetical scenario and a special circumstance, we are not talking about disfigured or dismembered! noway


right.
I'm talking about things that lessen your attraction to a person.
it could be anything.
a person gains weight
loses their hair
boobs sag
butt droops
and on and on
at that point you have discovered other things about them that make them attractive to you.
making physical attraction less of a requirement for romantic love.



I just hope it's not going to happen to me, I want that attraction 20 years later the same as the very first time, and I am going to make sure of that!



that is impossible!!!! face lift and tucks and implants only help for so long.

Shagwell's photo
Wed 01/07/09 12:43 AM




this is a hypothetical scenario and a special circumstance, we are not talking about disfigured or dismembered! noway


right.
I'm talking about things that lessen your attraction to a person.
it could be anything.
a person gains weight
loses their hair
boobs sag
butt droops
and on and on
at that point you have discovered other things about them that make them attractive to you.
making physical attraction less of a requirement for romantic love.



I just hope it's not going to happen to me, I want that attraction 20 years later the same as the very first time, and I am going to make sure of that!


that is kind of sad to me.
I can't wait for the kind of love that comes from respect and dedication.


you are twisting ideas here, if you refer to my earlier post, you will realize that I clearly said sexual attraction is ONE of the foundations to a long lasting romatic relationship rather not the sole reason to be in a relationship! huh

no photo
Wed 01/07/09 12:47 AM





this is a hypothetical scenario and a special circumstance, we are not talking about disfigured or dismembered! noway


right.
I'm talking about things that lessen your attraction to a person.
it could be anything.
a person gains weight
loses their hair
boobs sag
butt droops
and on and on
at that point you have discovered other things about them that make them attractive to you.
making physical attraction less of a requirement for romantic love.



I just hope it's not going to happen to me, I want that attraction 20 years later the same as the very first time, and I am going to make sure of that!


that is kind of sad to me.
I can't wait for the kind of love that comes from respect and dedication.


you are twisting ideas here, if you refer to my earlier post, you will realize that I clearly said sexual attraction is ONE of the foundations to a long lasting romatic relationship rather not the sole reason to be in a relationship! huh



Quit this argument while you're ahead.

Shagwell's photo
Wed 01/07/09 12:51 AM




this is a hypothetical scenario and a special circumstance, we are not talking about disfigured or dismembered! noway


right.
I'm talking about things that lessen your attraction to a person.
it could be anything.
a person gains weight
loses their hair
boobs sag
butt droops
and on and on
at that point you have discovered other things about them that make them attractive to you.
making physical attraction less of a requirement for romantic love.



I just hope it's not going to happen to me, I want that attraction 20 years later the same as the very first time, and I am going to make sure of that!



that is impossible!!!! face lift and tucks and implants only help for so long.



I don't need any of that to maintain my attraction to the one I love, so instead of face lifts and tucks, I will make sure that no problems will come in and go unsolved and destroy the relationship!

907daydreamer's photo
Wed 01/07/09 12:51 AM
Edited by 907daydreamer on Wed 01/07/09 12:54 AM

you are twisting ideas here, if you refer to my earlier post, you will realize that I clearly said sexual attraction is ONE of the foundations to a long lasting romatic relationship rather not the sole reason to be in a relationship! huh


I don't intend to "twist" your ideas
but wouldn't the foundation of a relationship come about in the...oh I don't know...beginning?

JaceKnows's photo
Wed 01/07/09 12:52 AM


that is kind of sad to me.
I can't wait for the kind of love that comes from respect and dedication.




I look forward to the kind of love born over 20 some years being together and not being tired of the other person. That kind of love, that kind of romance, has more going for it than any sort of lust or sexual ardor could muster.

907daydreamer's photo
Wed 01/07/09 12:52 AM

I don't need any of that to maintain my attraction to the one I love, so instead of face lifts and tucks, I will make sure that no problems will come in and go unsolved and destroy the relationship!


this says nothing of physical attraction.

Shagwell's photo
Wed 01/07/09 12:55 AM


you are twisting ideas here, if you refer to my earlier post, you will realize that I clearly said sexual attraction is ONE of the foundations to a long lasting romatic relationship rather not the sole reason to be in a relationship! huh


I don't "intend to twist your ideas"
but wouldn't the foundation of a relationship come about in the...oh I don't know...beginning?


a relationship should be built on MANY foundations not just one, and yes some of them come about in the begining and some will develope as you progress.

907daydreamer's photo
Wed 01/07/09 12:58 AM



you are twisting ideas here, if you refer to my earlier post, you will realize that I clearly said sexual attraction is ONE of the foundations to a long lasting romatic relationship rather not the sole reason to be in a relationship! huh


I don't "intend to twist your ideas"
but wouldn't the foundation of a relationship come about in the...oh I don't know...beginning?


a relationship should be built on MANY foundations not just one, and yes some of them come about in the begining and some will develope as you progress.


thus making physical attraction more of a requisite for romantic love initially.
goodnight waving

Shagwell's photo
Wed 01/07/09 12:58 AM


I don't need any of that to maintain my attraction to the one I love, so instead of face lifts and tucks, I will make sure that no problems will come in and go unsolved and destroy the relationship!


this says nothing of physical attraction.


this is a building block, everything is sort of connected together, if one block colapses then the rest will follow!

sexi_bytch33's photo
Wed 01/07/09 01:12 AM





this is a hypothetical scenario and a special circumstance, we are not talking about disfigured or dismembered! noway


right.
I'm talking about things that lessen your attraction to a person.
it could be anything.
a person gains weight
loses their hair
boobs sag
butt droops
and on and on
at that point you have discovered other things about them that make them attractive to you.
making physical attraction less of a requirement for romantic love.



I just hope it's not going to happen to me, I want that attraction 20 years later the same as the very first time, and I am going to make sure of that!



that is impossible!!!! face lift and tucks and implants only help for so long.



I don't need any of that to maintain my attraction to the one I love, so instead of face lifts and tucks, I will make sure that no problems will come in and go unsolved and destroy the relationship!




what it seems to me that when you started this conversation you have been saying that sexual attraction was one requirement now your saying that that's not what what you said that we must have in some way misunderstood what you where saying......hmmmmmmmmm. Maybe u need to go back to the beginning of the conversation and read what you wrote. You sure did a 360.

s1owhand's photo
Wed 01/07/09 01:16 AM

smitten Does romantic love require a sexual attraction?smitten


and that's not all....there is also the "release" part...

laugh

Shagwell's photo
Wed 01/07/09 01:19 AM


what it seems to me that when you started this conversation you have been saying that sexual attraction was one requirement now your saying that that's not what what you said that we must have in some way misunderstood what you where saying......hmmmmmmmmm. Maybe u need to go back to the beginning of the conversation and read what you wrote. You sure did a 360.


maybe because it is late you are not grasping what I am saying, yes sexual attraction is an important part of a relationship, however; it is one of many foundations a relationship will be built on, and mind you, an important one! noway

sexi_bytch33's photo
Wed 01/07/09 01:23 AM



what it seems to me that when you started this conversation you have been saying that sexual attraction was one requirement now your saying that that's not what what you said that we must have in some way misunderstood what you where saying......hmmmmmmmmm. Maybe u need to go back to the beginning of the conversation and read what you wrote. You sure did a 360.


maybe because it is late you are not grasping what I am saying, yes sexual attraction is an important part of a relationship, however; it is one of many foundations a relationship will be built on, and mind you, an important one! noway



aaaaaawwwwwwww I'm sorry did I hit a sore spot. Let me cry you a river sad tears rofl

Shagwell's photo
Wed 01/07/09 01:27 AM




what it seems to me that when you started this conversation you have been saying that sexual attraction was one requirement now your saying that that's not what what you said that we must have in some way misunderstood what you where saying......hmmmmmmmmm. Maybe u need to go back to the beginning of the conversation and read what you wrote. You sure did a 360.


maybe because it is late you are not grasping what I am saying, yes sexual attraction is an important part of a relationship, however; it is one of many foundations a relationship will be built on, and mind you, an important one! noway



aaaaaawwwwwwww I'm sorry did I hit a sore spot. Let me cry you a river sad tears rofl



yeah my a$s is sore, so keep away! and thanks for the gator tears flowerforyou

sexi_bytch33's photo
Wed 01/07/09 01:31 AM





what it seems to me that when you started this conversation you have been saying that sexual attraction was one requirement now your saying that that's not what what you said that we must have in some way misunderstood what you where saying......hmmmmmmmmm. Maybe u need to go back to the beginning of the conversation and read what you wrote. You sure did a 360.


maybe because it is late you are not grasping what I am saying, yes sexual attraction is an important part of a relationship, however; it is one of many foundations a relationship will be built on, and mind you, an important one! noway



aaaaaawwwwwwww I'm sorry did I hit a sore spot. Let me cry you a river sad tears rofl



and thanks for the gator tears flowerforyou


lol anytime


sloughr1's photo
Wed 01/07/09 01:46 AM
yep...

HawaiiMusikMan's photo
Wed 01/07/09 02:04 AM

smitten Does romantic love require a sexual attraction?smitten

I'd have to say yes on that one.