Thanks for your post: iam4u, you are right on. sincerely

I vowed when I turned fifty that I was going to make and effort to find the right one no more wasteing time playing around with almost or some guy who didn't really want a relationship.

I have put a lot of myself out there and I am sure closed some doors that if they made the effort to know me as a whole person would probably think "where have you been all my life". That isn't saying I am all that and a bag of chips but just that am the real deal and the kind of woman so many say they want to end up with.

My feeling is if someone wants to pass on me from something they learn about me I would rather it be sooner than later. I am not saying that someone who has different objectives, traits, or desires is bad I just don't want to waist their time either.

One of the main reasons folks complain about internet dating is the dishonesty. I don't see the point of it, you're going to be found out sooner or later, why put someone through that? I don't think you have to spill your insides the first date, but as it comes what up, whatever IT is, be honest.

When it comes to me, I'm straight forward and honest about who I am. If they don't like me for me, I could care less. But, those that actually take the time getting to know me, will see how great of a person I am. I never lie to my dates, or the women I am interested in. I can't say I never lie however, because I do; just not to the women in my life. ...Like, I will want a day off from work and call in sick, lying my @ss off saying I have contracted "Black Death Disease" or "The Bluebird Flu" , just to screw with the receptionist taking the call and to get off work. And occasionally, as a "psycological trip" with my friends or even strangers. But, I am pretty much straight forward and honest.

We get to know each other a little at a time.
There are some things best to get out in the open right off. Such as health issues and anything that might be a deal breaker later on. No sense wasting the other's time if the person has a major issue that isn't good for a healthy relationship.

Example.
I have COPD, broncial athsma, and brochitis. I would need to let the other person know this right off. No way I could go out jogging or climbing hills with her.

Exactly...I believe you need to begin as you are going to continue.

That is the only way to have it!

Granddaddy always said.....
"volunteer little, but when asked...
ALWAYS tell the truth"

He was a wise man, and I always do what grandpa says!!!!!!!!!

Granddaddy's advice is gold, better listen to it!

I tell the truth.

Yes, I tell the truth unless it's going to hurt someone really bad.

Truth only!

Well, sadly, people withhold from, define things differently, minimize, or deny the truth - not only to others, but oftentimes, from their very selves. At the same time, those on the receiving end of the information often follow suit. Its not always conscious.

Often it is fear that prevents us from communicating clearly with one another. No matter what that fear embodies, consciously, subconsciously, or unconsciously.

Join the crowd!

Full disclosure. Its better to run them off quickly than to waste a bunch of time and then run them off. :-)

Of course, that strategy only works if you are looking for a long term relationship. If you are just after the booty call, it would be a completely different strategy.