Topic: What would you do?
MsCarmen's photo
Fri 01/02/09 07:43 AM
If you were getting serious with someone and decided to take the next step of moving in together, how would you handle it if both of you owned your own home? Would you sell your home or expect them to sell theirs?

What if both of you had children? Would that make the decision of moving even more complicated and how would you decide?

ledi180's photo
Fri 01/02/09 07:47 AM
When I move out of my home, it'll go to my parents - that's been decided already regardless of if I find a man or not :smile:

Children does complicate most things in life and this would be no different. Much thought, planning and discussion would go into it before hand. There would also be a trial period in which we all stayed together to make sure it was workable flowerforyou

FallinAngel82's photo
Fri 01/02/09 07:47 AM
well first figure out who is moving in with whom

and then expecially if we both have kids

dont sell your place

maybe rent it out if you own it, a little extra income coming in will help and that way if things dont work out you can give notice to the renters that you will be needing to move back in and when ,


Wanderwhere's photo
Fri 01/02/09 07:49 AM
Getting into a relationship and holding onto your exit strategy is like trying to get into a boat and leaving one foot on the dock. It doesn't work very well.

If you aren't ready to burn your bridges behind you, maybe you should have some second thoughts about the relationship.

MsCarmen's photo
Fri 01/02/09 08:00 AM

Getting into a relationship and holding onto your exit strategy is like trying to get into a boat and leaving one foot on the dock. It doesn't work very well.

If you aren't ready to burn your bridges behind you, maybe you should have some second thoughts about the relationship.


Yeah, but that's easier said then done. What if you have only owned your home for just a short time, not to mention all the hard work you put into being able to get it and keep it?

Plus, uprooting the children is a pretty big deal, so how would come to an agreement on who makes the sacrifice?

no photo
Fri 01/02/09 08:03 AM


Getting into a relationship and holding onto your exit strategy is like trying to get into a boat and leaving one foot on the dock. It doesn't work very well.

If you aren't ready to burn your bridges behind you, maybe you should have some second thoughts about the relationship.


Yeah, but that's easier said then done. What if you have only owned your home for just a short time, not to mention all the hard work you put into being able to get it and keep it?

Plus, uprooting the children is a pretty big deal, so how would come to an agreement on who makes the sacrifice?


I would think that's something you should be discussing with the person you're moving in with. Only the two of you can answer that.

Riding_Dubz's photo
Fri 01/02/09 08:04 AM
Lighter fluid and matchs work wonders devil devil

MsCarmen's photo
Fri 01/02/09 08:07 AM

Lighter fluid and matchs work wonders devil devil
laugh laugh laugh

Wanderwhere's photo
Fri 01/02/09 08:13 AM
Relationships really suck. If you only want a tentative relationship, no big deal. If you are looking for one that will last the rest of your life, you don't do it with only one hand.

MsCarmen's photo
Fri 01/02/09 08:15 AM

Relationships really suck. If you only want a tentative relationship, no big deal. If you are looking for one that will last the rest of your life, you don't do it with only one hand.


I agree with you on that statement!!! :wink:

That's why I'm not in one! :banana:

Wanderwhere's photo
Fri 01/02/09 08:25 AM
Sigh. Me neither. Those slippery fckers will slip away even when you are using both hands. ;-)

no photo
Fri 01/02/09 09:16 AM

If you were getting serious with someone and decided to take the next step of moving in together, how would you handle it if both of you owned your own home? Would you sell your home or expect them to sell theirs?

What if both of you had children? Would that make the decision of moving even more complicated and how would you decide?




usually you move into the bigger of the two houses. but that's just me.

if both families can't fit into either house, you both sell(or rent, i dont care) and find a bigger house.


Rockmybobbysocks's photo
Fri 01/02/09 09:54 AM

well first figure out who is moving in with whom

and then expecially if we both have kids

dont sell your place

maybe rent it out if you own it, a little extra income coming in will help and that way if things dont work out you can give notice to the renters that you will be needing to move back in and when ,




hit the nail on the head. ;p

thats exactly right.

betsybubbles's photo
Fri 01/02/09 11:39 AM
:smile: :smile: Don`t sell till after a wedding!!!!Lease by contract for extra income!!!