to have a discussion on the healthy feeling of Anger, doesn't it. Why do you think that is?

because they have not yet figured out how to control themselves, so knowing they don't have self control they run from the drama and embarassment they will cause themselves in this inviroment

I think anger is pretty simple. It stem's from hurt feeling's and or, frustration mostly. So, are we too sensitive or, inept at time's?

Anger stems from fear. Fears are hard to face.

Anger...is just one letter short of danger...

I was just gonna say the same thing,.but not in so many words,..

control -- afraid of loosing control

Depends on the reason. When I found out my ex was cheating on me I didn’t take it out on her and I never hit her. OK maybe I raised my voice a little, but for the most part I was not going to do anything that was going to put me in jail. Until I went through all that I had learned to control my temper. Now between that and my job I gota be honest I have a temper and I say what’s on my mind, I use to be mellow.

Most people see anger as being unhealthy.I believe that anger is a natural response to certain behaviors.We are taught all of our lives that anger is wrong and to get over it.I don't believe in personal attack whether physical or mental but I do believe in letting anger run it's coarse or you will not be able to deal with the situation in a rational way. Find a safe place away from the situation and allow your self to be angry. You will find that,that situation?person will loose that control over you.Try it!!!

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Expression of Anger

Anger is a natural and necessary emotion. Anger is anger, it is in itself neither right nor wrong, healthy nor unhealthy. It is the expression of anger that makes it healthy or unhealthy. When it is expressed appropriately within the context of a situation it is a necessary emotion. Feeling anger is different from expressing anger, and it is the inappropriate expression of anger that makes it unhealthy.

Not feeling any anger in a situation is just as unhealthy as expressing anger in a rageful, vengeful manner. eg: when we see a child being beaten cruelly, it is natural to feel anger, however this does NOT justify the inappropriate expression by yelling, screaming or beating the abuser. This is healthy anger.

Healthy Anger:

Healthy anger is appropriate to the situation that evokes it. Healthy expression of anger involves facing what makes you angry and an effort to set boundaries for yourself by determining what you will do in response to what makes you angry.
eg: When you do ________, I feel ______ , and to protect myself I will _________.

Healthy anger is not used to punish, is not violent, and is not used to intimidate, control or manipulate the other person. It is expressed, discussed and moved through.

Healthy anger is not stuffed down and ignored. Stuffed anger creates resentment and a myriad of physical, mental and emotional problems. Healthy anger is not expressed in passive-aggressive and manipulative ways.



Unhealthy Anger

Unhealthy Anger is a component of abusive relationships. This kind of anger or rage is experienced with great intensity and expressed likewise by screaming and yelling, physical expressions of anger, violence or threats of violence, sulking, manipulation, emotional blackmail, silent smoldering, and anger used to punish.

Rage is a shame-based expression of anger.

Rage is by definition abuse. They react to strong emotions with rage, i.e. feelings of fear, sadness, shame, inadequacy, guilt or loss convert to rage.

They were typically shamed or punished by their caretakers for expressing emotion when they were young; i.e.: "Be a man and don't cry", "Nice girls don't get angry" or "I'll give you something to cry about".

Raging gives the angry person a feeling of power - offsetting their shame and feelings of inadequacy.

Unexpressed anger related to childhood abuses often results in addictive problems later in life. To stuff down the feelings of shame, anger, isolation, fear, sadness and loss the abuse creates.

By pushing feelings down it is impossible to work through feelings and move past them, keeping the person trapped in a downward spiral.

http://www.crescentlife.com/psychissues/healthy_vs_unhealthy_anger.htm

Life's too short to be pissed off all the time.

interesting...healthy vs. unhealthy anger..dichotomy of thought vs. action..and appropriate level of each

roco

from what i have learned....anger is a normal emotion. there are no good or bad emotions....it's how you react to the emotions that determines good or bad.

The only thing that really scares me is the Draconians

silly ^^