I personally find some slight romanticism in them. Not cave man type gender roles though. Is it outdated to want to be a house wife/stay at home mom?

Another observation I've made is that a woman who WANTS to stay home is considered a gold digger. 50 years ago you considered selfish if you DIDN'T stay home. Now you're thought to be selfish if you do.

its not outdated to be a housewife/stay at home mom if that is what YOU want to do,

if others are telling you that you HAVE to be that ,then its outdated,

I do agree with that.

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I wouldn't normally do that... but I find this interesting.

i love my job and would'nt trade it for anything.
but i also love staying home and taking care of my man and family. its all about balance for me. knowing how to juggle the things i love.

It's not outdated for a woman to want to stay home and take care of her family. Some women want that and some women don't. You just have to find a man that wants similar things and is willing to work with you to make that happen. Similar life goals are very important to make a relationship work.

I may be old-fashioned, but I've always thought that women took care of the inside of the home and the men should take care of the outside.

For example: Outside would include maintaining and cleaning vehicles, lawn, decorating for holidays outside, trash day, etc.

And of course, inside repairs, etc.

While the woman took care of cooking, cleaning, laundry, inside decor, etc.

And any sharing of tasks is welcome and encouraged with each helping the other if needed. It's a great way to bond (helping each other with projects, etc.)

I do feel that way too, but I wouldn't tell anyone they should either though...lol. I think its a romantic way of life. I'm a very nurturing person, and also really bad at being on other people's time at a job. I've always known thats just not my thing, and thats not got anything to do with laziness ( I work out about 2 hours a day... soooo not lazy), I just get bored very easily with jobs. When it comes to kids, cleaning, cooking, ect... I'm NEVER bored when I have any of those things to occupy me.

My typical job formula: Get a job, save $$ while helping my mom... then quit and use the money I saved to keep helping her til it runs out...lol... then get another job...

I think a parent should do what they want or feel when it comes to children. I think the children feel more nurtured when raised by one of the parents, then shipped to some nameless daycare.

One of the main problems that stay at home moms' experience is when their older. The kids are grown, and they have never worked. No 401k's or Roth IRIs' no retirement, and what if the marriage breakups.... Social Security is a joke. It's a life of welcome to Walmart.

My ex wanted me to quit my job when I got pregnant with our first daughter. I was very happy about this as I had detested putting my son in daycare when he was only 6 weeks old. So, I quit and stayed home with the children. However, about 4 years into it he decided we needed a bigger house (we were in a 2000 square foot home, I still say it was perfect) and he didn't have enough money for hunting trips. He decided that we would buy a half a million dollar home, I would go back to work and he booked his hunting trip to Africa.

I went back to work and he would get mad at me for not being able to take care of him and the kids like I did before. Some people are never happy. He still has the house and his hunting trophies. He's still not happy.

I make it clear when I am getting to know someone, well once conversation turns to "what do you want in life"... which normally takes a while... that those are what I want. I also make it clear that I am getting married once, and refuse to ever sign a divorce paper (unless in a case of abuse). They can change their minds about what they want about me working as far or as soon in as they like but its not going to change what I want. If we don't 100% agree on it, its not happening. I may compromise if needed and do something from home, or part time if things are just way too tight. I'd never let my family go without, but at the same time I'm willing to sacrifice money for a happy home also. My mother couldn't stay home and we ran wild... I don't want my kids to do that.

I hope not. I probably spend 90% of my time at home too, as I work from home, except for the occasional business trips around the world. Why would I require any woman I'm with to do what I wouldn't want to do either?