well, in my case.......


when you:
(1)rather face a firing squad than make love with them

(2)rightfully call them out on something and they turn the tables to make YOU feel like the one in the wrong

(3)literally have to fight the urge to seriously harm that person

and lastly

(4)can see yourself missing that person like crazy, but happier without them

When the tears keep going and the voices keep raising.

Before it begins ...

An ounce of response is worth a ton of reaction ...

Think long before you enter a lion's cage.

If it is an argument, by definition it is not a discussion, so -

No-one is listening, emotions are disregulated, nothing resolved, disharmony quickens, feelings are bruised, resulting in permanent scar tissue!

Discussion equals GOOD communication, equals peace!

Sometimes, the players needs a lil cool off time-out to respond/discuss versus react/argue.

Nah, arguments are NOT my style ...

Recovering child always here, no more of my own volition!

Magic word of the day
I dont know.
The end is all about your own boundaries. It hurts to leave but it only hurt to stay and know that your not the one.

when you there are to many bad memories

when yer neighbor looks like tina ................




and the fence is electrified.............

before she tries he bobat thing

The first time he utters something he can't take back -- like calling be a b*tch, etc -- then it's over for me.

I can't stand being around someone who can't argue effectively -- like name calling or raising their voice.

If I'm acting like a "b*tch" then have the maturity and sense enough to say that rather than "you b*tch".

When someone is laying on the ground in a pool of their own blood.

I agree Melody its very hurtful when spoken to like that I believe theres a better way to solve issues instead of name calling

When personal attacks are being made. Then it is time to step back.

Sometimes when we argue, we say things we don't mean that are.. well, mean.

But other times we say things we can't take back again. I think given the right [wrong] situation, everyone is capable of that.

I was with a girl a few years ago who wanted to get married to me; at the time she was a few years away from being ready for that, imo. To be frank, she'd had abusive relationships in the past, and had had to physically defend herself against much bigger males, and she tried to hit me quite a few times, even though I was no threat to her.. I have a good evasive defence.. anywho, there is no way I would settle down with someone who tried to hit me, so she needed to 'fix' that before we could talk about anything long term.

Never got a chance to explain that fully to her, she took what I said as "I never want to get married to you", which I never thought or said.

Some moments only come around once a lifetime, so great care needs to be taken during times of strife.

when one or both of you just don't care anymore...

When they disrespect you or purposefully use hurtful and profane language toward you.

and the blood was mine !she knocked me out with a frying pan ....

Yeah. The last girl I had a serious relationship (over three-months) with tried to kong me on the head with a skillet one time, too. Luckily, I ducked it just in time... just like what happens when someone throws a shoe at Dubya.