I know we all have challenges that we over come and some we think we will never get through.
See i was Married (My First) For 18+ years. For at lease 8 years i put up with the s**t and did do whatever i could to make it work. But we all know that it take two to make it work and it wouldn't ever work if the other one doesn't. My point is i am run down and beaten down. Not much hope. I am moving forward with my kids and I. Its just there is this HUGE hole in me and feel that if i had at least one woman that would show some interest in me i wouldn't feel so dam empty and worthless.
I have just open myself up to y'all i would ask no B~S please.
Sometimes my feeling come out twisted so bare with me.
There is plenty more to this if you really wont to hear more e-mail me.

There are lots of women out there that want a great relationship...man up and go get her!

I don't think you should need another person to make yourself feel better - but that's just my opinion. Love yourself, love those kids and just be thankful that you get to wake up each morning. I know it sounds so simple when it's the most difficult think to do. Day by my friend - that's my only suggestion.

Yeah? I have "Man Up" no luck. Hell i have my good days and bad. I cant even get my foot in the door. I am not allways in the dump.

Hopefully given some more time you will feel whole on your own and then open to a new relationship and with someone more willing to invest at least equally.

All I'm saying is if you go looking it will happen...

I have

Personally I hope you don't take this the wrong way I honestly think you have some healing that is left to do. I think you should join a support group or a grief group to get through the pain of what you have been through.
Before you even try for a relationship how about friendships first.
I know after my marriage it took me 3 years to heal. I thought I was ready to date but I wasn't and hurt some people along the way. Just my opinion
Have a better 09

I believe Family is most important

Keep going...what do you think I do every day?

Thank You!

I dont know ....What?

LOL...I keep going...keep trying...keep hoping!

That what i do too.
Its just that for 8 years of doing that got me right where i am. And my x is already Married. See there has been alot of emotional strain.
2 years ago when the X left my 11 year old daughter flipped out and she attended suicide several times. I had to put her in the hospital many times. The x didn't even come down here to help. She Screwed live on a web CAM!

Wow, what a pathetic excuse for a parent. Wish some parents could be stripped of their parental stripes. How AWFUL!!

ANd thats only a small little bit of the crap that All 3 of us are dealing with. AH AH!!!!

You've got mail, was too much to reply here.

I am so sorry that you are feeling so much pain. Been there; got that T-shirt. It is so hard.

I know it is hard to believe but when you are really ready the hole that you feel will change to an open door. You WILL catch your breath you just have to breath.

I hope you can't possibly really feel for long that you are worthless. A flash here or there but think how could you be so blessed with your children. I get it has been rocky but you are still all together as a family? You have any idea how many Daddie's would die to be in your position? Worthless is when you have nothing and no-one and no hope of ever having either. You know how to love. And You are half way to bliss with your babys with you so just hang on.

I am sorry that your Ex is doing things that are so hard to understand. The good thing about her being your Ex is her behavior is clearly her own choice. It has no reflection on you or your daughters. As best you can just let it go. It may take more years but someday you will laugh that her antics bugged you anymore than the silly people she is imitateing.

I really don't know why people seem to go a little crazy after divorce but it is typical behavior for the kind of person you describe so just ignore it as much of it as possible. Especially when the girls are around. No matter how they react they don't want to have to deal with defending their Mom to their Dad.

Try to keep in mind men have the upper hand when it comes to deciding when they move on and for good guys it usually isn't that fast. If you are striking out right now it is your vibe that you are not ready holding you back. That won't deter the less desireable party women but really it is a good thing for you so relax your vibe will settle down when you are really ready to settle in a great relationship. Let your wounds heal. I promise being alone doesn't kill you. I agree it doesn't always feel good but in the long run it will feel so great you will forget the pain and life starts to take off. It will you know! HUGS!

Most of us have been in that position. I was married for 15 1/2 years, and like you tried by myself for 13 of those years. I got tired of trying to make it work alone.

I still haven't found anyone to fill that hole. We just have to keep pluggin away.