Topic: Farewell 2008
Single_In_Chicago's photo
Mon 12/29/08 10:34 PM
2008…a year I am glad to see end. This year has brought me nothing more than heartache and grief when it comes to the dating. Over the course of the year I seriously dated 3 different women of 15 that I have become well acquainted to in the end be dumped because they have met another man. I am very realistic and understand that dating, especially for men, can be highly competitive and should realize that each woman fields multiple men at once. What I found staggering about my experience was how they all ended abruptly with each one insisting to remain friends. What prompted me to spill my heart out on the internet was that the third “dumping” occurred just hours ago as I received a text on the train from the girl I was recently seeing saying “I’ve met someone else.” I was in shock and immediately hurt, I helped this girl with her HW, listened to her when she needed to vent, and was very supportive when she had irreparable problems. Yet despite the devotion and the genuine kindness I offered, it all was thrown back to me in a “thanks but no thanks matter.” Recently she messaged me hoping we could stay friends, I replied kindly and said I needed time, but judging on how the previous 2 ended with me forging some sort of friendship, odds are I’ll do the same this time around. What makes this a major issue for me is that the 2 aforementioned women i have dated have repeatedly came to me with their relationship problems and while grinding my teeth offered the best advice I can muster. Yet, I always think to myself “why I continue to put myself through this torture?” It’s unfair for me, I’ve been nothing but nice, honest, kind, genuine, devoted, loyal, supportive, sincere and, everything I’ve had many women complain to me about what they wish men were more like and still as I stand before them I am nothing more to them then “just a friend.” That’s what I always seem to become, I’m just way too nice and no one just seem as if they want to pursue a serious relationship with me. I have constantly labeled myself as unlike the average man, and all my friends would confirm that. But I just don’t know any more, I’m beginning to give up on women since I have become everything I was hoping I wouldn’t become…but I know this wont last I’ll probably resume my bitter search in a matter of weeks meet someone and find myself wanting in the end….but as 2008 ends and 2009 soon to begin I only hope that the new year would bring to me the person that would see me more then a friend but a vital part of their world….as I hope that they woo would be the same for me….i am such a romantic…

MirrorMirror's photo
Mon 12/29/08 10:36 PM

2008…a year I am glad to see end. This year has brought me nothing more than heartache and grief when it comes to the dating. Over the course of the year I seriously dated 3 different women of 15 that I have become well acquainted to in the end be dumped because they have met another man. I am very realistic and understand that dating, especially for men, can be highly competitive and should realize that each woman fields multiple men at once. What I found staggering about my experience was how they all ended abruptly with each one insisting to remain friends. What prompted me to spill my heart out on the internet was that the third “dumping” occurred just hours ago as I received a text on the train from the girl I was recently seeing saying “I’ve met someone else.” I was in shock and immediately hurt, I helped this girl with her HW, listened to her when she needed to vent, and was very supportive when she had irreparable problems. Yet despite the devotion and the genuine kindness I offered, it all was thrown back to me in a “thanks but no thanks matter.” Recently she messaged me hoping we could stay friends, I replied kindly and said I needed time, but judging on how the previous 2 ended with me forging some sort of friendship, odds are I’ll do the same this time around. What makes this a major issue for me is that the 2 aforementioned women i have dated have repeatedly came to me with their relationship problems and while grinding my teeth offered the best advice I can muster. Yet, I always think to myself “why I continue to put myself through this torture?” It’s unfair for me, I’ve been nothing but nice, honest, kind, genuine, devoted, loyal, supportive, sincere and, everything I’ve had many women complain to me about what they wish men were more like and still as I stand before them I am nothing more to them then “just a friend.” That’s what I always seem to become, I’m just way too nice and no one just seem as if they want to pursue a serious relationship with me. I have constantly labeled myself as unlike the average man, and all my friends would confirm that. But I just don’t know any more, I’m beginning to give up on women since I have become everything I was hoping I wouldn’t become…but I know this wont last I’ll probably resume my bitter search in a matter of weeks meet someone and find myself wanting in the end….but as 2008 ends and 2009 soon to begin I only hope that the new year would bring to me the person that would see me more then a friend but a vital part of their world….as I hope that they woo would be the same for me….i am such a romantic…





biggrin That is very thoughtful.biggrin

biggrin Thank you for sharing that with us.biggrin

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Mon 12/29/08 10:38 PM
i hope you find love in the new year god bless and good luck

keepthehope's photo
Mon 12/29/08 10:43 PM
May we all find what we need, and hopefully it will be what we want as well!

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Single_In_Chicago's photo
Mon 12/29/08 11:16 PM
Thanx everyone for the support....this has been one of the most emotionally taxing years i've ever had

madamx7316's photo
Mon 12/29/08 11:17 PM
new year...new start. will keep ya in my prayers all will get better!

usernamefayou's photo
Mon 12/29/08 11:38 PM
2009 is already fer snit I guarantee