I met someone on another dating site and we began emailing daily and began to really connect. He seemed to be all that I was looking for and more. We discussed many issues including family and specific family issues and day to day things and all seemed to be developing nicely. We did not talk on the phone because he supposedly had surgery to remove a tumor from his vocal cord. I had no reason to doubt him. I was skeptical, but went with the flow and trusted him. He had to go out of town for a family emergency and he emailed me everyday around the same time as usual while he was away. His son even wrote me a few lines about how giddy his Dad was over me, yada yada yade. I believed everything and trusted everything he said thinking he was a man of dignity and decency. He claimed he had a Teddy Bear made specially for me - an exact replica of one I sent with an email. We decided to meet before Christmas and set the date and time. We both discussed deleting our profiles after we met if the chemistry was right. The night we were to meet, he sent me an email that he was going to jump in the shower and he would see me in less than 1 & half hour... and he could not wait to see me walking toward him. Left a smiley with the "I love You" sign in hand... and I tried to respond, but noticed his profile was deleted. I assumed he deleted it because we were finally meeting. Needless to say, he never showed for our dinner date.. I ended up eating some of the cookies I'd baked for him while I waited almost 2 hours... thinking maybe I got the time wrong. I gave him my phone number, so he could have called unless he was injured in an accident of some sort. That is what I wanted to assume. But I never heard from him again. The buildup of our first meeting was huge and I was crushed. I don't understand how anyone could pull such a cruel joke or farse on someone. If it was a hoax, it was a very detailed and elaborate hoax. Is this a common occurence on these sites? Or am I disillusioned believing that people are being honest?

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Sorry to hear that happened to you.

We emailed daily for 6 weeks or so. I'm still confused. No closure.

Let's hope the guy is in the hospital...

People can be cruel & you surely didn't deserve this treatment, but please don't let this determine your outlook on the future. It's his loss...be thankful you dodged that bullet...

I am sorry that this happened to you! Always trust your gut, if you think there is something a little off, wait longer before meeting or let the person go!

I certainly did dodge that bullet. Thanks for the encouragement. BTW, I love your sense of humor and quick wit. Awesome!!

he is so messed up...

even if he was just guna joke around....

he should not take things so far for so long....

thats just messed up....

but u did dodge a bullet like you say..

that jerk

Aw shucks! Us "stand-up-ees" gotta stick together!

Yes, it happens, and I'm sorry it happened to you. Been there done that, a little more to my story, but similar enough.

Don't give up, and it isn't everyone, the man I'm with now that I'm about to share a second anniversary with on the first, I met online, the same site as the "other guy" to be exact.

What scares me is that I thought it could have been an elaborate hoax from a guy I went out with and discovered he was strange and stalker-like. I'm thinking either it was a bet to see how long I would hang in there... or a cruel attempt to hurt me because I was honest and would not go out with the "stalker" again. I finally had to block him and deleted my profile on that site. I'll be much more careful now.

Ewww, that would be creepy if it was the stalker-guy...but you can't live in fear. I sometimes bring a girlfriend along & if I get stood up, I can go to the club with her & not waste my "date hair"!

Great idea to bring a friend along. At least it's not a waste of makeup. LOL

omg ur date hair.....thats so

Both of you crack me up... my kind of pals.

Sounds like he was married or involved with a live-in partner. Maybe he got found out. Perhaps he got cold feet when he realised it was real and he'd gone too far. Hard to tell.

Did you cyber o cam for him a lot? That might have been what he was after. A lot of men on the internet will prey on newbies and the naive this way. Chalk it up as a lesson learned, as painful as it was.

It ain't real till its real.

I am so sorry this happened to you. I think we all have at least one in out past that was just a dirtbag whether we are female or male.
I thing the first thing I would have advise next time around is get their ass on Webcam. I know alot of people are hesitant with it but...This also reeks that he was a fake from the get go. I know I am weird but I am leaning towards a sicko woman playing as a man.

I must be jaded been out here to long.

Just hang in there, rebait and cast out your line again.