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Topic: How do you handle a control freak?
Averageguy1964 Joined Fri 12/05/08 Posts: 1710	Mon 12/29/08 09:54 PM
Turn and Run away from them

shadowprincessx Joined Sat 12/27/08 Posts: 153	Mon 12/29/08 10:01 PM
maybe its because we've had soo much c**p done to us that we take charge now! everyone is different-dont forget there are people who stay in abusive relationships cuz they're scared or just dont want to be alone. and fyi-not ALL control freaks are obsessive stalkers. just cuz i have 7 restraining orders-oh umm...i mean...so is it raining...err..umm

keepthehope Joined Sun 09/02/07 Posts: 4263	Mon 12/29/08 11:07 PM
Ignore them and do what you want.

OrangeCat Joined Tue 10/23/07 Posts: 76874	Mon 12/29/08 11:08 PM
I dont deal with em

steveinohio Joined Tue 12/09/08 Posts: 1	Mon 12/29/08 11:08 PM
Either give them control or walk away. Its not worth the headache of taking the time to fight with people. A waste of time it is.

madamx7316 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 15886	Mon 12/29/08 11:22 PM
as a fiery redheaded southern gal, i have only one solution for that.... CAST IRON SKILLET!!! works wonders!!!

usernamefayou Joined Tue 08/26/08 Posts: 1195	Mon 12/29/08 11:26 PM
if the suspected control freak starts with the creative control out of boredom, then you know it's go time

catwoman96 Joined Thu 08/14/08 Posts: 5848	Mon 12/29/08 11:40 PM
ask them nicey to do something for you..to show that you are not intimidated. be patient. be kind.......dont let them bulldoze you.

MrsKaters Joined Thu 09/04/08 Posts: 1015	Tue 12/30/08 03:31 AM
kick them out and get a protection order

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Tue 12/30/08 03:40 AM
Either give them control or walk away. Its not worth the headache of taking the time to fight with people. A waste of time it is. If you give total control to a control freak, they'll suck the spirit out of you. Been there. Done that. Working on healing the spirit and getting it back....

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Tue 12/30/08 02:43 PM
Everyone seems to have a solution to the problem of control freaks but no specifics have been mentioned. Yet there are still lots of control freaks out there. They will use many tactics to control someone. Here are some of them: Getting angry at you for not being or doing what they want. Sulking and pouting. Screaming and yelling. circular reasoning... Yack yack yack all the time. Physical brute force. Fear of his or her wrath. Guilt. Sympathy. "..Or I will kill myself." game. "..or I will leave you.." game. "..or I will kick you out and reject you." game Or I will be mad and withhold my love. Or I will be mad and withold sex. Or I will withhold support or money. Or I will take your children away. Or I will take your whatever away. (anything you have and like) I'm sure you who have been on the other end of a control freak can think of other techniques.

Averageguy1964 Joined Fri 12/05/08 Posts: 1710	Tue 12/30/08 02:46 PM
as a fiery redheaded southern gal, i have only one solution for that.... CAST IRON SKILLET!!! works wonders!!!

scorpio90 Joined Sun 12/21/08 Posts: 8481	Tue 12/30/08 03:19 PM
Everyone seems to have a solution to the problem of control freaks but no specifics have been mentioned. Yet there are still lots of control freaks out there. They will use many tactics to control someone. Here are some of them: Getting angry at you for not being or doing what they want. Sulking and pouting. Screaming and yelling. circular reasoning... Yack yack yack all the time. Physical brute force. Fear of his or her wrath. Guilt. Sympathy. "..Or I will kill myself." game. "..or I will leave you.." game. "..or I will kick you out and reject you." game Or I will be mad and withhold my love. Or I will be mad and withold sex. Or I will withhold support or money. Or I will take your children away. Or I will take your whatever away. (anything you have and like) I'm sure you who have been on the other end of a control freak can think of other techniques. That is a very comprehensive list. I've been subjected to them all at some point.

AndyBgood Joined Thu 12/25/08 Posts: 12437	Tue 12/30/08 03:42 PM
With a remote control...

DEN1313 Joined Sat 12/27/08 Posts: 12	Tue 12/30/08 05:25 PM
get rid of him

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Tue 12/30/08 06:34 PM
maybe its because we've had soo much c**p done to us that we take charge now! everyone is different-dont forget there are people who stay in abusive relationships cuz they're scared or just dont want to be alone. and fyi-not ALL control freaks are obsessive stalkers. just cuz i have 7 restraining orders-oh umm...i mean...so is it raining...err..umm I once knew a control freak who threatened to stalk me the night I decided I could no longer be with them. Know how I handled it? Marched my butt right over to my local police station and had them escort the person out of my life. No one threatens me or mine.

luv2roknroll Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 30367	Tue 12/30/08 06:48 PM
Duct tape... and a whip!

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Tue 12/30/08 06:49 PM
How do you deal with a control freak? hide the remote