But, isn't that how most sex offenders become sex offenders? By being victims of sexual abuse as a child? I agree it is horrible, but I think it still may be true.

i dont have any sisters, nor do i have a mom in my life. i was raised by my late grandma and aunts so there was my maternal part i guess

I know. Here I start a thread on Mingle about a subject psychiatrists can't even agree on.

Well, I have 2 sisters and I can be a real b1tch. I wonder if I would be nicer if I had brothers?

I know some guys without sisters. They certainly don't treat women worse than guys I know with sisters.

If so, I'd submit that there should be much harsher punishments for mothers who abuse their sons.
Maybe even have legislators consider that they obtain a license or permit by undergoing phychological screening to prove they're fit.

Well, that's good in theory, but giving the government more power over our personal lives never really works out in the long run.

Ok...I guess we'll just have to live with the serial killers, rapist, wife beaters and all around everyday jerks then...
It was just a thought...

that wasn't my point. And, I don't see why you have to be sarcastic just because I didn't agree with your solution. I don't know what the answer is.

It does seem ironic to me though that you need a license to fish, to build a garage, to sell cotton candy at the beach, but any two idiots who can manage to pull their pants down can be trusted with the welfare and upbringing of a human life.

Please forgive because I don't mean to be sarcastic, but rather to make a point that relates directly to your point. Absolutely no offense meant in any way...

I completely agree with that, but I don't think you should have to have a license to fish, build a garage or sell cotton candy. I don't even think you should have to register your car. But, that's a whole thread for politics.

I just think there has to be a better way to stop child abuse than giving the government more power than they already have. Department of Children and Family Services can't even get it right with the power they do have.

Okay, I'm sorry if I took it the wrong way.

I agree that there's no easy answers to this dilemna. I'm just saying that if the root problem is child abuse, maybe that's something that should be addressed and not just trying to avoid the crazies that result from it.
I understand that it's a deep and serious concern for women who just want to feel assured that their love interest doesn't turn out to be a jerk, and that being able to effectively screen them out by looking at their past relationships is essential to avoid becoming entangled in less than desirable relationships.
Believe me, I've dated some real losers in the past too and it never occured to me to ask them about their relationships with their fathers or brothers.
Maybe I should do that from now on.

Just for the record, I don't know that it is a root cause. I believe that studies have shown it to be a factor rather than a cause. Of course, that's with physical and emotional abuse. I think with sexual abuse they are able to draw a clearer line between victim and perpetrator.

Either way, I was bringing it up not really for myself, but because I am raising two daughters and I worry about these kinds of things all the time.

A woman's relationship with her father while she was growing up will definitely impact her in her adult relationships with a man. Some are impacted more and some less.

I have two daughters also so I can totally relate to that.

i dont think it matters cuz most the time they thinkin with their member brain...

than the one in their skull

and their member brain..isnt very smart to be in lead command

Depends on the relationship they had with the sister(s) and/or mother...

Same experience for me. Now my brother had an older and a younger sister and is very respectful to women.