Topic: Delema
TJN's photo
Wed 12/17/08 06:57 PM
Last weekend when I had my girls my youngest (4) told me that momma said I dont take care of them and that just blew my mind and broke my heart. I didnt know what to say to her so I asked my oldest(9) if in fact she had said that and she confirmed it. I didnt say anything else to my girls about it. My problem is how do I bring it up to my ex without being confrontational? I dont want to put my girls into the position where my ex is mad at them for telling me that because I know she will get on them about it. Its tearing me up inside and I just want to rip her a new one but I wont do it because my girls dont need to be put through that.

tanyaann's photo
Wed 12/17/08 06:59 PM
I personally wouldn't address my ex. I would talk to the children to see how they felt about it.

TJN's photo
Wed 12/17/08 07:02 PM

I personally wouldn't address my ex. I would talk to the children to see how they felt about it.

I know they dont beleive that but its just that she must be saying that to other people and it pisses me off

mikew1979's photo
Wed 12/17/08 07:03 PM
Edited by mikew1979 on Wed 12/17/08 07:03 PM
Yeah, that has got to be hard to hear. Depending how your ex is, there may be no way to bring it up without being confrontational. I think I'd start with asking how the kids feel about what their mom said. She could be trying to impression them to believe that, and as long as they don't believe it, leave the issue to yourself for now.

tanyaann's photo
Wed 12/17/08 07:07 PM


I personally wouldn't address my ex. I would talk to the children to see how they felt about it.

I know they dont beleive that but its just that she must be saying that to other people and it pisses me off


Continuing being a great dad, is the best way to address her bad mouthing!

no photo
Wed 12/17/08 07:09 PM
here we had to take a course "child in the middle"
http://www.childreninthemiddle.com/ you may want to look it up and see what you can find in your state

TJN's photo
Wed 12/17/08 07:13 PM

here we had to take a course "child in the middle"
http://www.childreninthemiddle.com/ you may want to look it up and see what you can find in your state

We had to take a co-parenting class and I vividly remember them talking about not talking bad about the other parent in front of the kids. Thats where I'm torn because I know its not true but the fact that she is saying that about me in front of the kids

no photo
Wed 12/17/08 07:16 PM


here we had to take a course "child in the middle"
http://www.childreninthemiddle.com/ you may want to look it up and see what you can find in your state

We had to take a co-parenting class and I vividly remember them talking about not talking bad about the other parent in front of the kids. Thats where I'm torn because I know its not true but the fact that she is saying that about me in front of the kids
Good luck then, sounds like a real b-i-t-c-h

TJN's photo
Wed 12/17/08 07:24 PM



here we had to take a course "child in the middle"
http://www.childreninthemiddle.com/ you may want to look it up and see what you can find in your state

We had to take a co-parenting class and I vividly remember them talking about not talking bad about the other parent in front of the kids. Thats where I'm torn because I know its not true but the fact that she is saying that about me in front of the kids
Good luck then, sounds like a real b-i-t-c-h

thanks I could think of other things to call her tho

TJofPA's photo
Wed 12/17/08 08:07 PM
as a young one.... and went through that...over now but there was nothing more that pissed me off then my each of my parents talking bad about one another in front of me behind one another backs i think the buiness is between you and your wife....kids can be molded so easily and convinced to think other wise i would say talk to her but try to stay calm man

jdcolvin's photo
Wed 12/17/08 08:14 PM
try and find an adult she has said this to and then confront her but leave the kids out of it