well i was refering that if you are "choosing" to fall in love, then you are only fooling yourself for whatever reasons. I know people who start dating and then its "i am sOO in love with ___" which is completely taken out of contex to make them, personally, feel better, feel wanted, feel needed. Now weather or not they are is not the point, but i personally dont think that love can happen quickly. I wouldnt venture to imagine how long it would take some one to develop think enough skin for my and my ways .....So their statements have nothing to do with "love", its more about personal insecurity for them