Topic: When your significant other doesn't call
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Tue 12/16/08 09:02 PM

flowerforyou When your significant other says they will call but doesn't, would you be offended or upset?flowerforyouAlso, if they don't mention "forgetting" or anything "urgent", what do you think?flowerforyou


NO. I'd just call them...Forget about getting all upset about the little things.

Try no to over think the reasons for him not calling. You are in a relationship and you should help carry that relationship if you want it to last.

So pick up the slack and call him.

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Tue 12/16/08 09:08 PM


flowerforyou When your significant other says they will call but doesn't, would you be offended or upset?flowerforyouAlso, if they don't mention "forgetting" or anything "urgent", what do you think?flowerforyou


NO. I'd just call them...Forget about getting all upset about the little things.

Try no to over think the reasons for him not calling. You are in a relationship and you should help carry that relationship if you want it to last.

So pick up the slack and call him.



I agree..I wouldn't be upset at all.. I know what its like to be busy.. it's when someone doesn't take the time to call or text on a regular basis that will make me end it..

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Wed 12/17/08 12:11 AM



flowerforyou When your significant other says they will call but doesn't, would you be offended or upset?flowerforyouAlso, if they don't mention "forgetting" or anything "urgent", what do you think?flowerforyou


NO. I'd just call them...Forget about getting all upset about the little things.

Try no to over think the reasons for him not calling. You are in a relationship and you should help carry that relationship if you want it to last.

So pick up the slack and call him.



I agree..I wouldn't be upset at all.. I know what its like to be busy.. it's when someone doesn't take the time to call or text on a regular basis that will make me end it..

point noteddrinker

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Wed 12/17/08 12:13 AM




flowerforyou When your significant other says they will call but doesn't, would you be offended or upset?flowerforyouAlso, if they don't mention "forgetting" or anything "urgent", what do you think?flowerforyou


NO. I'd just call them...Forget about getting all upset about the little things.

Try no to over think the reasons for him not calling. You are in a relationship and you should help carry that relationship if you want it to last.

So pick up the slack and call him.



I agree..I wouldn't be upset at all.. I know what its like to be busy.. it's when someone doesn't take the time to call or text on a regular basis that will make me end it..

point noteddrinker


you following me is getting a little weird
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Wed 12/17/08 12:14 AM
thats the part where I stab my teddy bear and sing little nursery ryhmes to myself....surprised

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Wed 12/17/08 12:17 AM

flowerforyou When your significant other says they will call but doesn't, would you be offended or upset?flowerforyouAlso, if they don't mention "forgetting" or anything "urgent", what do you think?flowerforyou
lol.. im crazy and he knows it..
if he doesnt call.. he knows im going to bring it up when i talk to him again..
example.. he didnt call tonight. so i got online and he had an email waiting for me..
"im sooo sory.. i forgot my phone at the office!!! im stupid i know.. i hope you sign in tonight so i can talk to you. im sorry i didnt call and ill call tomorow early when i get into work. im sorry"


lol.

usualy hes buzy or someting.. but he rarely doesnt answer when i call him.. and if he does miss my call i get a return call as soon as he notices..
he realy is pretty good about it lol.. but then again i was upfront in the beging that i had trust issues and that contact is importaint to me.. **dont get me wrong .. not 24-7 kind.. but at least a call a day..**

lol

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Wed 12/17/08 12:19 AM
personally i don't know what the big deal is with not callin or txting. i'm not in any sort of a relationship right now but when i meet a new girl and she says she will call and doesn't, i don't let it get me down. i try to stay true to my word about callin but things happen and i get busy or preoccupied sometimes. that doesn't automatically mean i am out screwin around with another girl or completely blowin her off. girls tend to take an answering machine as a shutdown. lol

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Wed 12/17/08 12:26 AM
oK let me tell you how it is!!!!


If WE say we are going to call and dont.......you are supposed to be all cool about it.bigsmile


If YOU say you are going to call and dont.......








I suggest you RUN AND HIDE!!!rant explode grumble laugh

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Wed 12/17/08 12:38 AM
Edited by angelindarkness on Wed 12/17/08 12:43 AM

flowerforyou When your significant other says they will call but doesn't, would you be offended or upset?flowerforyouAlso, if they don't mention "forgetting" or anything "urgent", what do you think?flowerforyou

Once, I was separated from someone I was living with, committed to, and loved very much, for 10 days because of their business trip in another land. I had panick attacks, severe depression, lost a significant amount of weight because I stopped eating and sleeping, suffered a case of severe diverticulitis, and experienced PTSD symptoms because they decided it was "for the best" to shut off their phone on me and not email. It was my calling plan and affordable for me to call, so that wasn't the reason.

I was demeaned, derided, and ignored, and my fears and insecurities were minimized by them because I expressed how it affected me when I received no response. It had to be one of the worst abandonments/perceived losses of my life.

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Wed 12/17/08 12:41 AM

I think he's occupied with something or SOMEONE else. I make it my business to make my significant other one of my priorities so I expect the same. If you say you're going to do something, do it. That way there's no room for doubt. Now, if you fall asleep or something happens, let me know. I'm less likely to be upset hearing the truth than making up scenarios in my own mind.

flowerforyou

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Wed 12/17/08 01:44 AM

oK let me tell you how it is!!!!


If WE say we are going to call and dont.......you are supposed to be all cool about it.bigsmile


If YOU say you are going to call and dont.......








I suggest you RUN AND HIDE!!!rant explode grumble laugh


noway ... so true

And why is that eh???

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Wed 12/17/08 07:47 AM


flowerforyou When your significant other says they will call but doesn't, would you be offended or upset?flowerforyouAlso, if they don't mention "forgetting" or anything "urgent", what do you think?flowerforyou

Once, I was separated from someone I was living with, committed to, and loved very much, for 10 days because of their business trip in another land. I had panick attacks, severe depression, lost a significant amount of weight because I stopped eating and sleeping, suffered a case of severe diverticulitis, and experienced PTSD symptoms because they decided it was "for the best" to shut off their phone on me and not email. It was my calling plan and affordable for me to call, so that wasn't the reason.

I was demeaned, derided, and ignored, and my fears and insecurities were minimized by them because I expressed how it affected me when I received no response. It had to be one of the worst abandonments/perceived losses of my life.


I'm sorry but that is kinda creepy. flowerforyou

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Wed 12/17/08 07:50 AM

i get really offended, if your say your gonna call me and don't call me i dun care if you made other plans with john pete and harry, at least pick up the phone and let a brotha KNOW!!!!!!!!



we like brothas :banana:

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Wed 12/17/08 07:54 AM
This happens to me sometimes, but I don't get mad. He explains to me why. I understand. He may skip a day before he calls me, but he calls me almost everyday sometimes more than twice.

My advice is just be patient.

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Wed 12/17/08 11:04 AM
I'm simply a firm believer in doing what you say you're going to do. And yea, they definitely had a life before I came along and they'll continue to have it...but with the ease of texting (unless they fell asleep of course) it won't take more than a couple of seconds to just shoot a text and say "Hey, busy today talk to you tomorrow" or something along those lines.

But yea, I have no relationship atm either and it's damn hard for me to find a steady one anyway just because of my job. "Oh hey you're- oh you're leaving the country in 6 months. Nevermind."

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Wed 12/17/08 11:06 AM

flowerforyou When your significant other says they will call but doesn't, would you be offended or upset?flowerforyouAlso, if they don't mention "forgetting" or anything "urgent", what do you think?flowerforyou




I would take them out to the middle of nowhere... drop them off and let them call about 10 times then after about the 10th time say "Oh did you call?"

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Wed 12/17/08 11:08 AM


flowerforyou When your significant other says they will call but doesn't, would you be offended or upset?flowerforyouAlso, if they don't mention "forgetting" or anything "urgent", what do you think?flowerforyou

Once, I was separated from someone I was living with, committed to, and loved very much, for 10 days because of their business trip in another land. I had panick attacks, severe depression, lost a significant amount of weight because I stopped eating and sleeping, suffered a case of severe diverticulitis, and experienced PTSD symptoms because they decided it was "for the best" to shut off their phone on me and not email. It was my calling plan and affordable for me to call, so that wasn't the reason.

I was demeaned, derided, and ignored, and my fears and insecurities were minimized by them because I expressed how it affected me when I received no response. It had to be one of the worst abandonments/perceived losses of my life.


:cry: :cry: :cry: flowerforyou

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Wed 12/17/08 11:25 AM
Edited by special_guy on Wed 12/17/08 11:25 AM

flowerforyou When your significant other says they will call but doesn't, would you be offended or upset?flowerforyouAlso, if they don't mention "forgetting" or anything "urgent", what do you think?flowerforyou



Shoot 'em ... but don't kill 'em just wing 'em a bit so they will remember to call next time... works like a charm

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Wed 12/17/08 06:34 PM

I'm simply a firm believer in doing what you say you're going to do. And yea, they definitely had a life before I came along and they'll continue to have it...but with the ease of texting (unless they fell asleep of course) it won't take more than a couple of seconds to just shoot a text and say "Hey, busy today talk to you tomorrow" or something along those lines.

But yea, I have no relationship atm either and it's damn hard for me to find a steady one anyway just because of my job. "Oh hey you're- oh you're leaving the country in 6 months. Nevermind."


But see your the best kind.......because for 6 months at a time I least I don't have to remember to call you........LOL

Ron1218's photo
Wed 12/17/08 11:34 PM


I'm simply a firm believer in doing what you say you're going to do. And yea, they definitely had a life before I came along and they'll continue to have it...but with the ease of texting (unless they fell asleep of course) it won't take more than a couple of seconds to just shoot a text and say "Hey, busy today talk to you tomorrow" or something along those lines.

But yea, I have no relationship atm either and it's damn hard for me to find a steady one anyway just because of my job. "Oh hey you're- oh you're leaving the country in 6 months. Nevermind."


But see your the best kind.......because for 6 months at a time I least I don't have to remember to call you........LOL


Haha, longer than that. I'll be in South Korea for a year starting in June of next year and then who the hell knows where I'll go from there. I'm definitely visiting Australia though while I'm out that way.