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Topic: Hugging and Kissing
funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sat 12/13/08 08:46 AM
When children act out sexually it is usually because they are victims of sexual abuse. "Ruth" that may or may not be true ..but the question was what would you do if you caught them busting slob on the playground would you say "oh they must have been sexually abused" and keep allowing them to grope each other while you investigate the matter

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Sat 12/13/08 09:38 AM
When children act out sexually it is usually because they are victims of sexual abuse. "Ruth" that may or may not be true ..but the question was what would you do if you caught them busting slob on the playground would you say "oh they must have been sexually abused" and keep allowing them to grope each other while you investigate the matter I believe I did answer the question when I said I would go talk to them.

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sat 12/13/08 10:44 AM
When children act out sexually it is usually because they are victims of sexual abuse. "Ruth" that may or may not be true ..but the question was what would you do if you caught them busting slob on the playground would you say "oh they must have been sexually abused" and keep allowing them to grope each other while you investigate the matter I believe I did answer the question when I said I would go talk to them. talk to them about what? ...that it's inappropiate school behavior or would you question them and start your own secret investigation into whether if they were sexually abused...or would you report the incident

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sat 12/13/08 11:19 AM
My child got a time out on the bench at recess for hugging another child in kindergarten. They were 5 yrs. old. And, that's just stupid. The problem is that it would seem that a great many people are lacking in common sense so the rules have to be made for the lowest common denominator. It is stupid. I had a 5 yr. old that was confused as to why they couldn't give another child a hug. I talked to the teacher about it. They said that the school had a "no contact" rule. I said "They're only 5!" Grrrrrrr.

quiet_2008 Joined Sat 08/30/08 Posts: 11138	Sat 12/13/08 11:29 AM
You're a grade school teacher teaching very young children. All your students are well-behaved. The recess bell rings and they all run out to the playgound. You go out to the playground to watch over them. When you get there you see Johnny and Jeannie sitting on a bench hugging and kissing each other passionately. What do you do? Do you just ignore them? Do you praise them for being so loving? Do you reprimand them and tell them they are doing something wrong? What would you do? sneak up behind em. grab em and yell "RARRRGGHHHHH" they'll be so traumatized that they'll never kiss anyone ever again

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sat 12/13/08 12:14 PM
My child got a time out on the bench at recess for hugging another child in kindergarten. They were 5 yrs. old. And, that's just stupid. The problem is that it would seem that a great many people are lacking in common sense so the rules have to be made for the lowest common denominator. It is stupid. I had a 5 yr. old that was confused as to why they couldn't give another child a hug. I talked to the teacher about it. They said that the school had a "no contact" rule. I said "They're only 5!" Grrrrrrr. because children like anyone can catch and spread diseases among each other with a simple hug especially things they can die from like Meningitis a non-hug rule may sound haste but the parents have place the children into the hands of the school personal and expect then to take reasonably care of their children

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sat 12/13/08 12:20 PM
My child got a time out on the bench at recess for hugging another child in kindergarten. They were 5 yrs. old. And, that's just stupid. The problem is that it would seem that a great many people are lacking in common sense so the rules have to be made for the lowest common denominator. It is stupid. I had a 5 yr. old that was confused as to why they couldn't give another child a hug. I talked to the teacher about it. They said that the school had a "no contact" rule. I said "They're only 5!" Grrrrrrr. because children like anyone can catch and spread diseases among each other with a simple hug especially things they can die from like Meningitis a non-hug rule may sound haste but the parents have place the children into the hands of the school personal and expect then to take reasonably care of their children I see what you are saying but meningitis isn't an issue with the 5 yr. old population. These children still have a lot of baby in them. It was mean to me to hurt my child's feelings and confuse them and make them feel bad for giving another child a hug without explaining the reason.

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sat 12/13/08 03:25 PM
My child got a time out on the bench at recess for hugging another child in kindergarten. They were 5 yrs. old. And, that's just stupid. The problem is that it would seem that a great many people are lacking in common sense so the rules have to be made for the lowest common denominator. It is stupid. I had a 5 yr. old that was confused as to why they couldn't give another child a hug. I talked to the teacher about it. They said that the school had a "no contact" rule. I said "They're only 5!" Grrrrrrr. because children like anyone can catch and spread diseases among each other with a simple hug especially things they can die from like Meningitis a non-hug rule may sound haste but the parents have place the children into the hands of the school personal and expect then to take reasonably care of their children I see what you are saying but meningitis isn't an issue with the 5 yr. old population. These children still have a lot of baby in them. It was mean to me to hurt my child's feelings and confuse them and make them feel bad for giving another child a hug without explaining the reason. who can better explain the reasons to the child than the parents or guardians ... all the medical society can do is issue the warnings and give certain guildlines..if the school do not follow this advice it may result in legal consequences by parents if their child gets sick in which in some cases even the individual teacher can be held libel if the parents receives a take home memo about a non-hug policy then it's also up to the parents to educate their child about the reasons for the non-hug policy to spare them possible hurt feelings when it is enforced

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Sat 12/13/08 04:33 PM
talk to them about what? ...that it's inappropiate school behavior or would you question them and start your own secret investigation into whether if they were sexually abused...or would you report the incident The question stated that I was the teacher and schools have policies in place as to how to proceed and I would follow that. I'm not sure what you mean by a "secret investigation".

Dan99 Joined Sat 08/23/08 Posts: 14941	Sat 12/13/08 04:35 PM
If his finger smells, tell the parents. yes i know...im gross.

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sat 12/13/08 05:42 PM
My child got a time out on the bench at recess for hugging another child in kindergarten. They were 5 yrs. old. And, that's just stupid. The problem is that it would seem that a great many people are lacking in common sense so the rules have to be made for the lowest common denominator. It is stupid. I had a 5 yr. old that was confused as to why they couldn't give another child a hug. I talked to the teacher about it. They said that the school had a "no contact" rule. I said "They're only 5!" Grrrrrrr. because children like anyone can catch and spread diseases among each other with a simple hug especially things they can die from like Meningitis a non-hug rule may sound haste but the parents have place the children into the hands of the school personal and expect then to take reasonably care of their children I see what you are saying but meningitis isn't an issue with the 5 yr. old population. These children still have a lot of baby in them. It was mean to me to hurt my child's feelings and confuse them and make them feel bad for giving another child a hug without explaining the reason. who can better explain the reasons to the child than the parents or guardians ... all the medical society can do is issue the warnings and give certain guildlines..if the school do not follow this advice it may result in legal consequences by parents if their child gets sick in which in some cases even the individual teacher can be held libel if the parents receives a take home memo about a non-hug policy then it's also up to the parents to educate their child about the reasons for the non-hug policy to spare them possible hurt feelings when it is enforced It wasn't in the school rules handbook.

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sun 12/14/08 09:54 AM
My child got a time out on the bench at recess for hugging another child in kindergarten. They were 5 yrs. old. And, that's just stupid. The problem is that it would seem that a great many people are lacking in common sense so the rules have to be made for the lowest common denominator. It is stupid. I had a 5 yr. old that was confused as to why they couldn't give another child a hug. I talked to the teacher about it. They said that the school had a "no contact" rule. I said "They're only 5!" Grrrrrrr. because children like anyone can catch and spread diseases among each other with a simple hug especially things they can die from like Meningitis a non-hug rule may sound haste but the parents have place the children into the hands of the school personal and expect then to take reasonably care of their children I see what you are saying but meningitis isn't an issue with the 5 yr. old population. These children still have a lot of baby in them. It was mean to me to hurt my child's feelings and confuse them and make them feel bad for giving another child a hug without explaining the reason. who can better explain the reasons to the child than the parents or guardians ... all the medical society can do is issue the warnings and give certain guildlines..if the school do not follow this advice it may result in legal consequences by parents if their child gets sick in which in some cases even the individual teacher can be held libel if the parents receives a take home memo about a non-hug policy then it's also up to the parents to educate their child about the reasons for the non-hug policy to spare them possible hurt feelings when it is enforced It wasn't in the school rules handbook. it was probably in the section of the book that was labeled ..."It's The Parent's Responsibilty"

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sun 12/14/08 11:05 AM
My child got a time out on the bench at recess for hugging another child in kindergarten. They were 5 yrs. old. And, that's just stupid. The problem is that it would seem that a great many people are lacking in common sense so the rules have to be made for the lowest common denominator. It is stupid. I had a 5 yr. old that was confused as to why they couldn't give another child a hug. I talked to the teacher about it. They said that the school had a "no contact" rule. I said "They're only 5!" Grrrrrrr. because children like anyone can catch and spread diseases among each other with a simple hug especially things they can die from like Meningitis a non-hug rule may sound haste but the parents have place the children into the hands of the school personal and expect then to take reasonably care of their children I see what you are saying but meningitis isn't an issue with the 5 yr. old population. These children still have a lot of baby in them. It was mean to me to hurt my child's feelings and confuse them and make them feel bad for giving another child a hug without explaining the reason. who can better explain the reasons to the child than the parents or guardians ... all the medical society can do is issue the warnings and give certain guildlines..if the school do not follow this advice it may result in legal consequences by parents if their child gets sick in which in some cases even the individual teacher can be held libel if the parents receives a take home memo about a non-hug policy then it's also up to the parents to educate their child about the reasons for the non-hug policy to spare them possible hurt feelings when it is enforced It wasn't in the school rules handbook. it was probably in the section of the book that was labeled ..."It's The Parent's Responsibilty" This parent sees no problem with a 5 yr. old giving another 5 yr. old a hug. That is a loving child.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Sun 12/14/08 11:06 AM
it was probably in the section of the book that was labeled ..."It's The Parent's Responsibilty" I'd like to see a school handbook with that section in it. Actually, the whole handbook for the parents is basically a list of what is the parent's responsibilty and what the expectations are for attending the school. So, if there was nothing in the handbook on the "no touching" rule then the school failed to do their job in notifying the parents.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Sun 12/14/08 11:07 AM
This parent sees no problem with a 5 yr. old giving another 5 yr. old a hug. That is a loving child. Neither does this parent.

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sun 12/14/08 11:14 AM
This parent sees no problem with a 5 yr. old giving another 5 yr. old a hug. That is a loving child. Neither does this parent.

invisible Joined Mon 04/09/07 Posts: 7692	Sun 12/14/08 11:20 AM
This parent sees no problem with a 5 yr. old giving another 5 yr. old a hug. That is a loving child. Nobody cared about these things when we were young, and I don't think that there is anything wrong with us.

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sun 12/14/08 11:33 AM
it was probably in the section of the book that was labeled ..."It's The Parent's Responsibilty" I'd like to see a school handbook with that section in it. Actually, the whole handbook for the parents is basically a list of what is the parent's responsibilty and what the expectations are for attending the school. So, if there was nothing in the handbook on the "no touching" rule then the school failed to do their job in notifying the parents. "Ruth" the parents were already informed of the no-hug policy ..Winx"s concerned was about the hurt feelings that may come due to the enforcement of that policy .. the parents can opt to let the school explain to their child why their child shouldn't hug another child but I just thought maybe it's the parents responsibilty to explain it to the child ..

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sun 12/14/08 11:37 AM
it was probably in the section of the book that was labeled ..."It's The Parent's Responsibilty" I'd like to see a school handbook with that section in it. Actually, the whole handbook for the parents is basically a list of what is the parent's responsibilty and what the expectations are for attending the school. So, if there was nothing in the handbook on the "no touching" rule then the school failed to do their job in notifying the parents. "Ruth" the parents were already informed of the no-hug policy ..Winx"s concerned was about the hurt feelings that may come due to the enforcement of that policy .. the parents can opt to let the school explain to their child why their child shouldn't hug another child but I just thought maybe it's the parents responsibilty to explain it to the child .. No, we weren't informed of the "no-hug" policy. It was not in writing anywhere. I believe the teacher decided the rule at recess at her discretion. My child had this teacher for two different grades (small Lutheran school). That teacher was very mean!!

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Sun 12/14/08 12:03 PM
it was probably in the section of the book that was labeled ..."It's The Parent's Responsibilty" I'd like to see a school handbook with that section in it. Actually, the whole handbook for the parents is basically a list of what is the parent's responsibilty and what the expectations are for attending the school. So, if there was nothing in the handbook on the "no touching" rule then the school failed to do their job in notifying the parents. "Ruth" the parents were already informed of the no-hug policy ..Winx"s concerned was about the hurt feelings that may come due to the enforcement of that policy .. the parents can opt to let the school explain to their child why their child shouldn't hug another child but I just thought maybe it's the parents responsibilty to explain it to the child .. No, we weren't informed of the "no-hug" policy. It was not in writing anywhere. I believe the teacher decided the rule at recess at her discretion. My child had this teacher for two different grades (small Lutheran school). That teacher was very mean!! did you ever ask the teacher why she enforced a non-hug policy?