Well i had a little post up a few days ago about me and my girl
well i guess she like found another guy and is starting to like him.

shes known him for 2 days
but like she still tells me how much she is in love with me and doesnt want to lose 6 months
this is really hard for me ive lost 15 lbs in 4 days from not eating

Its just i spilt my heart to this girl and her friends and family are like telling her how dumb she is because i treated her so good.

But like we talked yesterday and she was like he kissed me and i was like was it better than one of ours she told me no it wasnt comparable. but shes like this guy tells me everything perfect and this and that. she used to say that about me

i just like really am trying to get through to her how much i care for her. Her ex before me dumped her for some other girl he met to and now shes doing it to me which really hurts. if she tells me shes truly happy with me but she doesn't know why she cant take me back whats that mean???

and last night she came over and we talked and shes like he tried to kiss me again and i pulled away. and like idk we just were talking and the led to kissing passionately like how we used to. and she just tells me she doesnt know what to do because if she gets rid of me she loses me for good cuz i go to basic training in 26 days but if she tells him no every one at school will hate her.
i just wish i knew what to tell her
its really killing me on the inside because i want to be with her so bad
any advice

like we had a fight worse than this and we got through it easily and now some stupid fight about me not texting her till she got home caused all of this.

but then my friend was talking to her and was like if u 2 get married before he leaves are you gonna stay faithful and this and that and she goes, i would wear his ring proudly and be like my husbands a soldier <3 i just dont know what she is feeling or why is it so hard to take 6 months back over 2 days


also she says she doesnt love him
and she couldnt love any one more than she loves me
then what the heck is wrong why cant she take me back
she was like im tired of fighting but when she said about the kiss shes like i miss you
i miss some of the fighting with you blah blah blah

but what else really got to me was that she was like if david dated another girl i would want to kill the B****
i was like then why is she doing it to me shes like we arnt dating or anything david. like she sat in her car last night and we talked shes like idk what to do i want to pull my hair out

So your 19 your going with a chick but your on a dateing site and your going in the service in less than a month and your worried about some girl that you've gone out with 6 months ? If I've got all that straight and now your talking marriage too ? Grow up a little more and just enjoy her for your 26 days a let her go . YOUR ASKING FOR A DEAR JOHN LETTER WITHIN 3 MONTHS .Deal with it and move on .I f you were for real you would'nt be on here you'd be building something with her !You've still got so much to learn and matureing to do ! Get smart .

i was on this site way before i met her
and i check in and talk on here every once and a while

DOES'NT MATTER ! YOUR GONNA PICK ON ONE POINT AND REFUTE THE REST OF WHAT I SAY ? BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF AND YOU'LL KNOW I'M RIGHT ! YOU HAVE A LOT OF GROWING TO DO AND SO DOES SHE ! DEAL WITH IT

i know i have a lot of growing to do
i wanted to grow with her

Dbad, you and she are both young and have a lot of living to do yet. I kind of agree with StarTraveler in that if she stays with you the 26 days, you'll be getting a Dear John letter. I do understand you wanted to grow with her, but you can not hold on to someone that doesn't want to be held on to.

6 months? and it's killing you? what's gonna happen when your having more mature relationships and they last 6 years and then it's over? You want to be with her? why would you want to be with someone who hurts you? she is lying when she says she loves you or she wouldn't be with someone else.. it peeves me when people are afraid to be alone and they hang onto people who treat them like crap cause they're just weak... There are plenty of real women out there.. no reason to hang on to a fake one...

There's your problem in a nutshell, you're trying to get through to her about how much you care but it doesn't sound to me like you're listening to her, both her words and actions are saying she doesn't feel the same way. She's conflicted and you need to back off and give her some room. Six months is NOTHING in a relationship, it's just the start of a beginning and all too often, an ending. There's something about your relationship that isn't right for her.

It doesnt' matter how much you care about her, if she doesn't feel the same, nothing you say will change that. And, do you really want her staying with you out of guilt and pity? Seriously, that's just wrong.

You are a very sweet young man. I understand the emotions are so strong and VERY REAL for your right now.

All I can say, is be patient with yourself. As the other posters have said, you are very young. Try to focus on a brother or sister or good friend right now. Enjoy your last few days of freedom. The military will be tough, and it will toughen you up.

Honestly, this girl sounds a bit nuts, and most likely you are better off without her.

Enjoy your youth, your health and the future you have ahead of you. It is looking bright!

Although Strtraveler is a little tough on you, I have to agree with him. You are only 19, live life, enjoy life, do everything you want to do, and when you have, then start looking for something serious; that way whenyou are settled down with someone, the interest for something you have not done is not there. My best to you, and may God bless you while you are overseas!

LCJW