So sorry sweetie!

Some of us just aren't like that though! We take that vow and "live" by it!

thanks, I would like to believe that had the roles been reversed I would have done "the right thing", but one will never know until they are in that position.

nah nah nah....
men always say this kind of thing.
"if i get sick, i will leave u or go commit suicide"
he is trying to feel out what she would do...if...

most would nurse, some would bail.

I was dating the most wonderful man when I went down with my back in 2001. He took me to the drs., bathed me, brought me Mickey D's before he went to work at night, while I was in the hospital,(he worked at a prison here in town), he took care of our 8 children, (ages 14-1 1/2 yr old) cooked, cleaned, did laundry, folded laundry, made sure "my kids" got to sports practice and their games, took care of our horses......Yeah, "til death do us part", and we were only dating and living together.

He was wonderful...can't lump the ALL into one catagory!!

if i knew i was dumped by a guy who got really sick because he didn't want me to have to take care of him i would stubbornly do it anyway and keep "forgetting" that i was dumped.

Me: "oh hi dear how are you today"

Him: "what are you doing here i thought i dumped you"

Me: "you did? musta slipped my mind... anyhoo well since i'm here you could do with a bath, i'll start it for you "

Him: " you don't have to.."

Me: "I know. Get ready for your bath"

*Repeat every day until he cusses me out, at which point i cuss him back, and we repeat the process.*

I really wouldn't give a damn about his vote to "spare me"... he'd just have to get used to it

TheCaptain is a widower, it was his wife that he stayed with until her passing, that is what he meant by "he cared for her until the day she left us." My biggest fear is that if I get sick, he will have to do the same thing all over again. But at least I know that he is one to stick around.

If ever he gets sick......no one will ever get me to leave his side. As much as health professionals care, they don't love him like I do.

I agree, Eileena...Hospice or healthcare workers may have more "medical" knowledge & training, but they do not know their patient's heart. I think it is terribly wrong to deny a loved one the honor of caring for us if we need it & they are so inclined. Like Duffy said...some may nurse, some may bail...but at least give us the opportunity to make that decision for ourselves..JMO.

I guess I always thought that was part of being there for each other during the tough times & taking on life together.

some don't

And I find that quite unfathomable, Quiet...whatever happened to "in sickness & in health"?

in sickness and health is not part of the deal now.
it is how long your money lasts, and then, abide by the prenup agreement or get sued.