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Topic: Tricks of the Trade
tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Wed 12/10/08 05:35 PM Edited by tanyaann on Wed 12/10/08 05:36 PM
Ok.. spill them... what worked for you as a parent.... an older lady in my social work program said that with her grandchildren (who she is raising) she tells them to cry louder and harder... and they stop. [this only works until they are old enough to think its funny to cry louder and harder and scream] What are your tips or tricks?

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Wed 12/10/08 05:41 PM
Do you mean if they are having a temper tantrum or just crying?

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Wed 12/10/08 05:43 PM
Do you mean if they are having a temper tantrum or just crying? Not sure... I have used it for temper tantrums.

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Wed 12/10/08 05:47 PM
Do you mean if they are having a temper tantrum or just crying? Not sure... I have used it for temper tantrums. When my child cried, I was there for them. My child only had a couple of temper tantrums and they were minor. I nipped it in the butt by leaving the room when it happened. They aren't so much fun when there is no audience. Also, I found that when these things happened, I could have avoided the situation by not missing a snack time or nap time, or overstimulating my child.

SolitaryMan52402 Joined Sat 11/10/07 Posts: 21147	Wed 12/10/08 05:50 PM
Ok.. spill them... what worked for you as a parent.... an older lady in my social work program said that with her grandchildren (who she is raising) she tells them to cry louder and harder... and they stop. [this only works until they are old enough to think its funny to cry louder and harder and scream] What are your tips or tricks? I use to do the count to 10 thing, after they got wise I did a silent count, once I got up it was to late. BTW do you believe in spanking?

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Wed 12/10/08 05:52 PM
Do you mean if they are having a temper tantrum or just crying? Not sure... I have used it for temper tantrums. When my child cried, I was there for them. My child only had a couple of temper tantrums and they were minor. I nipped it in the butt by leaving the room when it happened. They aren't so much fun when there is no audience. Also, I found that when these things happened, I could have avoided the situation by not missing a snack time or nap time, or overstimulating my child. Well that doesn't work for mine... he follows me as I continue to ignore him

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Wed 12/10/08 05:54 PM
Do you mean if they are having a temper tantrum or just crying? Not sure... I have used it for temper tantrums. When my child cried, I was there for them. My child only had a couple of temper tantrums and they were minor. I nipped it in the butt by leaving the room when it happened. They aren't so much fun when there is no audience. Also, I found that when these things happened, I could have avoided the situation by not missing a snack time or nap time, or overstimulating my child. Well that doesn't work for mine... he follows me as I continue to ignore him They do that. Just keep ignoring. But...only have seeing what triggered it - overtired, sleepy, overstimulated.

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Wed 12/10/08 05:55 PM
Ok.. spill them... what worked for you as a parent.... an older lady in my social work program said that with her grandchildren (who she is raising) she tells them to cry louder and harder... and they stop. [this only works until they are old enough to think its funny to cry louder and harder and scream] What are your tips or tricks? I use to do the count to 10 thing, after they got wise I did a silent count, once I got up it was to late. BTW do you believe in spanking? Not really. My son is the type of child you can beat him senseless and he will not understand except that you are physically punishing him. He responds better to being explain to why he is being punished such as taking away stuff/rewards or being removed from the situation. Don't get me started on the psychology of physical punishment.

mcattygarnett Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 3527	Wed 12/10/08 05:56 PM
I didnt have that problem with my daughter, because I would leave the room as soon as she started, and she didnt like that. So, then when she got old enough to know what was going on, I just took all of the fun stuff out of her room. Just try different things, because not everything that worked for me will work for your child. Good luck

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Wed 12/10/08 05:57 PM
Do you mean if they are having a temper tantrum or just crying? Not sure... I have used it for temper tantrums. When my child cried, I was there for them. My child only had a couple of temper tantrums and they were minor. I nipped it in the butt by leaving the room when it happened. They aren't so much fun when there is no audience. Also, I found that when these things happened, I could have avoided the situation by not missing a snack time or nap time, or overstimulating my child. Well that doesn't work for mine... he follows me as I continue to ignore him They do that. Just keep ignoring. But...only have seeing what triggered it - overtired, sleepy, overstimulated. Nope! Pushing boundaries again!

johncarl Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 5074	Wed 12/10/08 06:04 PM
i use 1, 2,3 magic it still works to today and she is almost 8. all you have to do is explain that one is that you better stop what you are doing . 2 is that if you don't stop you will be grounded for x amount of days and 3 you are grounded. never give in the the grounding. all you have to do is raise one finger then two then three you don't even have to ever raise your voice ever.when they get older you have to go to a different way but it still is not bad.my daughter will watch my hand if i put a finger up.even in church.

awolf1010 Joined Sun 03/30/08 Posts: 7251	Wed 12/10/08 06:05 PM
if your child is sick, and you are going to use vicks vapor rub.....put it on their feet then put their socks on.....it absorbs into their system ten times faster, and you dont hafta fight them!!!

johncarl Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 5074	Wed 12/10/08 06:07 PM
time outs don't work. i had to go to lots of classes and believe me the 123 thing has made my life so much better.

johncarl Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 5074	Wed 12/10/08 06:07 PM
time outs don't work. i had to go to lots of classes and believe me the 123 thing has made my life so much better.

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Wed 12/10/08 06:24 PM
time outs don't work. i had to go to lots of classes and believe me the 123 thing has made my life so much better. 1,2,3 doesn't work on mine.. he just thinks its funny

johncarl Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 5074	Wed 12/10/08 06:49 PM
time outs don't work. i had to go to lots of classes and believe me the 123 thing has made my life so much better. 1,2,3 doesn't work on mine.. he just thinks its funny he has to have things he likes toys tv games. take everything he likes away for a day.if he thinks it is funny still give him more days after wile he will not think it is funny.my friend took away everthing in the room just left the bed no toys for a month his child came around. he is just a strong willed child.if you nip it now he will stop.my child is going on 4 months no new toys. she does not want to do chores around the house.if she does not do chores no money and then she cant buy a toy.if you get them ware it hurts they listen to 123. my daughter would hit bite slap kick punch break everthing. rip pages out of your book and spit in your face. she never did it to me but to my x. i did the 123 thing on her for her doing it to her mom and at my house,she is a very good child now. she is very sweet. and will not lie. if you ask her something she will answer you yes or no.

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Wed 12/10/08 06:53 PM
time outs don't work. i had to go to lots of classes and believe me the 123 thing has made my life so much better. 1,2,3 doesn't work on mine.. he just thinks its funny he has to have things he likes toys tv games. take everything he likes away for a day.if he thinks it is funny still give him more days after wile he will not think it is funny.my friend took away everthing in the room just left the bed no toys for a month his child came around. he is just a strong willed child.if you nip it now he will stop.my child is going on 4 months no new toys. she does not want to do chores around the house.if she does not do chores no money and then she cant buy a toy.if you get them ware it hurts they listen to 123. my daughter would hit bite slap kick punch break everthing. rip pages out of your book and spit in your face. she never did it to me but to my x. i did the 123 thing on her for her doing it to her mom and at my house,she is a very good child now. she is very sweet. and will not lie. if you ask her something she will answer you yes or no. tv is unplugged. and I am not counting... he is being told or asked twice.. and if he doesn't response appropriately it doesn't happen... such as no story tonight at bed b/c he decided to throw a fit that he didn't want to go to bed.

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Wed 12/10/08 07:10 PM
How old is he?

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Thu 12/11/08 06:10 AM
How old is he? he is going to be 6 soon.

michiganman3 Joined Mon 10/29/07 Posts: 14521	Thu 12/11/08 07:16 PM
Time outs, just like in the Dennis the Menace comic strips, go stand in the corner. 1 min. for each age yr. So a 6 yr old gets six mins in the corner, no talking please. Then we discuss the behaviour. Always a hug when its done.