Topic: If married....Would you rather be in love or be happy?
itsasqueakthing's photo
Tue 12/09/08 05:38 AM
I'm in love....but I am unhappy with some aspects of my life...I'm also getting divorced from the one I DON'T love any more and ISN'T my friend any more.....

So I guess that's a partial answer...


The one I love is my best friend...I am happy and unhappy at the same time...maybe that doesn't count because we are not married...

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Tue 12/09/08 05:46 AM

I'm in love....but I am unhappy with some aspects of my life...I'm also getting divorced from the one I DON'T love any more and ISN'T my friend any more.....

So I guess that's a partial answer...


The one I love is my best friend...I am happy and unhappy at the same time...maybe that doesn't count because we are not married...

It counts. I've been both happy and unhappy. I know how it feels. I wish you the best with your new best friend and lover. I hope to find what you have for myself one day.


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Tue 12/09/08 08:59 AM
After reading all these posts, I got to thinking... DOES love conquer all? If your life is unhappy, how much can you be loving...& loved? Wouldn't being miserable cause your loved one to be miserable as well? IMO, I don't think this question has any clear-cut answer...

JasmineInglewood's photo
Tue 12/09/08 09:02 AM
Edited by JasmineInglewood on Tue 12/09/08 09:14 AM
happy duh...

. i never ever want to be in love with someone who doesn't make me happy... then i'm emotionally stuck to a pain in the ass... which sucks. ohwell

*edit: after reading the OP in its entirity, i see he was saying "unhappy not with your spouse but with life"

still, i'd rather be happy than be in love. i live my life for myself. i can do without being in love if i live an exciting, fulfilled life. i'm a rather unromantic person and my boyfriends are usually a lot more romantic and "mushy" than i am. heck, i can get artificially inseminated if i want a kid. ohwell


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Tue 12/09/08 09:09 AM
It stinks, but yes, love is more important. Hopefully, the plan is to help eachother during the bad times. Support and all that, just can't remember ha, ha. Good luck to all though, it seems I'm in need of a little myself.... Ahh, love the terrible 4 letter word

ianminty2's photo
Tue 12/09/08 09:13 AM
im with the first poster on this one mskim

there is absolutely no point being in a marriage if your unhappy with your life. i would rather be happily in love than anything else.

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Tue 12/09/08 09:37 AM




Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....if you could not be happy in being married there would be no pointnoway noway noway noway noway noway noway noway


Maybe you're married but you've lost your job and home and your kids are sick. Thus you are unhappy. Not with your married partner with whom you are in love with but you are unhappy with your life.
Dude....I think you need some serious sleep.noway noway noway noway noway noway noway noway


Dude....it's a post and a question I'm interested in. If you have nothing to contribute then move on.


I have nothing to contribute either

but I thought that was kinda of a f*cked up way to talk to her

A64WOODY's photo
Tue 12/09/08 09:40 AM
When I have more time.......I'll be back!

ianminty2's photo
Tue 12/09/08 09:43 AM
but of course if this was orientated around having children. i would rather put on a brave face, and disguise that there was any problems. with mummy and daddy. i don't think i would ever be in that predicament, as the women i marry is the women i love, and if we do happen to fall out of love, i would still have a place in my heart for her. so nothing would get that bad, so the children wouldn't be affected.

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Tue 12/09/08 09:47 AM





Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....if you could not be happy in being married there would be no pointnoway noway noway noway noway noway noway noway


Maybe you're married but you've lost your job and home and your kids are sick. Thus you are unhappy. Not with your married partner with whom you are in love with but you are unhappy with your life.
Dude....I think you need some serious sleep.noway noway noway noway noway noway noway noway


Dude....it's a post and a question I'm interested in. If you have nothing to contribute then move on.


I have nothing to contribute either

but I thought that was kinda of a f*cked up way to talk to her
Thanks Quietflowerforyou

KennyLingus's photo
Tue 12/09/08 09:50 AM
I'll stick with being emotionally stable. Then Love and Happiness go hand in hand.

MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 12/09/08 09:51 AM

I'll stick with being emotionally stable. Then Love and Happiness go hand in hand.
flowerforyou agreedflowerforyou

Marley's photo
Tue 12/09/08 09:57 AM
I'll take oral pleasure. I love it because it makes me happy.

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Tue 12/09/08 10:31 AM
:heart: LoVe :heart:

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Tue 12/09/08 02:23 PM
Edited by MisKim323 on Tue 12/09/08 02:29 PM





Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....if you could not be happy in being married there would be no pointnoway noway noway noway noway noway noway noway


Maybe you're married but you've lost your job and home and your kids are sick. Thus you are unhappy. Not with your married partner with whom you are in love with but you are unhappy with your life.
Dude....I think you need some serious sleep.noway noway noway noway noway noway noway noway


Dude....it's a post and a question I'm interested in. If you have nothing to contribute then move on.


I have nothing to contribute either

but I thought that was kinda of a f*cked up way to talk to her
He can't help it, being a 7 foot, 100 year old man from the North Polelaugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

bad_girl's photo
Tue 12/09/08 02:31 PM
Bravo quiet





Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....if you could not be happy in being married there would be no pointnoway noway noway noway noway noway noway noway


Maybe you're married but you've lost your job and home and your kids are sick. Thus you are unhappy. Not with your married partner with whom you are in love with but you are unhappy with your life.
Dude....I think you need some serious sleep.noway noway noway noway noway noway noway noway


Dude....it's a post and a question I'm interested in. If you have nothing to contribute then move on.


I have nothing to contribute either

but I thought that was kinda of a f*cked up way to talk to her

bad_girl's photo
Tue 12/09/08 02:31 PM
oops






Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....if you could not be happy in being married there would be no pointnoway noway noway noway noway noway noway noway


Maybe you're married but you've lost your job and home and your kids are sick. Thus you are unhappy. Not with your married partner with whom you are in love with but you are unhappy with your life.
Dude....I think you need some serious sleep.noway noway noway noway noway noway noway noway


Dude....it's a post and a question I'm interested in. If you have nothing to contribute then move on.


I have nothing to contribute either

but I thought that was kinda of a f*cked up way to talk to her
He can't help it, being a 7 foot, 100 year old man from the North Polelaugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

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Tue 12/09/08 02:37 PM
you can be in love with someone that no longer loves you, which makes you unhappy, and sooner or later you will not be able to handle their not loving you and you will stop loving them. then it takes time to get your happiness back because your love is gone and it never goes easy. if your love is gone and your are still happy then you did not have much love. it takes time to get happy again. I'll take love any day, happiness is easy to find, love takes time. But thats only my 2 cents.

artcat's photo
Tue 12/09/08 02:46 PM
Happiness is something that is found within each of us. I believe that if you cannot find your internal place of happiness no external source of pleasure or psuedo happiness will ever be a substitute for true happiness.

I think Abraham Lincoln said it quite simply and quite well: "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

The state of being in love can surely enhance someone's feelings of happiness and well being.

Regardless of whether I am in love or not, and regardless of whether or not there are things in my daily life that I am unhappy with, I just cannot conceive of not waking each day and deciding to be as happy as I can be each and every day of my life regardless of whomever crosses my path.

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Tue 12/09/08 02:49 PM
What???? ta can't be.....Both???