oh mummy thank you!!!

LMAO @ JeanC!!!
Aint that the dam truth!!!!!

camplight


Just help her thru the mood swings'

She prolly won't appreciate a party.

young girls are very sensitive to these issues.

due to peer pressure, feeling awkward already as it is....etc.

let her know that if she wants to talk you are there

i have 2 daughters my youngest is 12 and just crossed the threshold
before my last tour. i was soooooooo happy it didn't happen while i
was away!!!!


RETAIL THERAPY..... seriously lol

beautiful lingerie so that they find the inspiration to be feminine and
all that entails.... and a subscription to some womens or teen magazines
that will answer many questions you will not be able to!!!

we have a teen magazine here for women...and it addresses
EVERYTHING!!!!!!!! brilliantly!

good luck!

um, i dont think any father wants to buy his daughter lingerie, nor does
the daughter probably want him too.

I think it depends on the culture and today's society?

Since I had no unconditional love from a male in my life, it would be a
huge problem for me...

But, how awesome would it be? For the one, most important male figure in
a girls life to show her she is true female, and sacred, and with the
real bounderies of parent-child?

How awesome would it be if that boundry wasn't crossed and a child
-male, and female- grew up knowing they are completely loved, and
honored?

We tend to think from a negative side. And, I don't know how such is
done other than my own experience...

Has no parent been involved with the education of children where they
absolutely teach abstaining, while being real all at once. Knowing
children do things we don't agree with... And, offer them a way to be
safe... condoms, birth control...

Just thinking out loud...

I think that he takes this much of an interest in his daughter is quite
admirable..most mothers don't even do that.

But JMHO...going through a transition from childhood to "womanhood" via
menstruation is still no cause for celebration. I mean, the transition
itself might be...but for goodness sake, if I were him I wouldn't throw
a party and invite all her friends and string up a banner that reads,
"Happy First Day of Menstruation!"

Yes, i'm being facetious but...what I mean is, if it were me, I'd be
mortified if my dad offered to "celebrate" with me the fact that I just
started my period.

If I were "Dad," I'd just let her know if she needed me for anything,
i'd be there for her. Sounds like they have a close relationship as it
is, so I would think she'd go to him with issues she felt were important
to share with him.

If a girl is going to consult with anyone about such matters, it's
usually her mother or her female friends. But only "Dad" knows whether
or not talking about such issues together comes naturally or not. If it
doesn't, then I say ..just offer to take her out for a special day just
because she's "growing up," but don't mention menstruation, for pete's
sake! That'd be somewhat embarrasing, IMHO.

OH! LMAO!

I shoulda been more clear... I was thinking from the journey of the
growing up and transition part of it...

The period?

Omg, My daughter didn't even want to think about it, never mind having
it announced...

I cried when I got mine, LMAO!

Oh, not to worry; I wasn't addressing your post specifically, just the
topic in general.

I'd say if there IS going to be a celebration, make sure it's not held
during "that week."

I wish I had had a supportive man in my life like that. Hell, I could't
even get my (now ex) husband to buy many anything...tampons, pain
killers, nothing).

I said, hell, they're not going to think they're for you!

And one time he had a bad headache and all we had in the house was
Midol. So I offered him a couple and he flat out refused to take any.

I said, "Tony, your weenie's NOT going to drop off, you know. It's a
pain reliever, for goodness' sake!"

LMFAO!

'cause ya know? PMS and the red auntie flow is contagious...

Man will thus his mighty chest at the redwing contest, but not touch the
tampon package!

omg, LMAOOOOO!

take her shopping. that always works for girls, of any age. Or at least
it has for me. Any topic do with girl hygiene/puberty etc i take them to
the mall.
Last week it was bra's....When i dont know an answer to a question, all
the help is there as i just ask a lady employee.

Worked well for me, as i made it a fun, relaxed outing.

So good to see a guy in here!
and, whom takes his daughter shopping...

excellent!

Update, - we usually have a talk every night when she is here and had a
talk with her the other night. We openly talked about her starting. She
was totally uninhibited, we are like that in this family. I ask what
happens if she starts at school and figured out she didn’t have pads in
her pack, she does now.


Reading the posts, it’s clear I needed to be more specific. I’m not
talking call up the neighborhood, party here. I’m referring to what Jess
mentioned – honoring her, as many cultures and traditions do. I know
there is a lot of stigma and embarrassment attached to this in our
culture. As a person I’m always looking for better ways of being in this
world, and childhood and cultural standards do not always provide the
best examples. I find this the same in parenting.

Thanks again everyone.

Thats pretty cool your honoring her, my dad gets mad at me when I
complain about it. We went to the buffet one day when i was sopposed to
get my period, and I got my period then and there, and
right at the time i start it i cant eat anything, my tummy is so
bloated! He paid for both of us and needless to say he was quite
pissed!!!

I do feel bad about that but what was I sopposed to do?
I tried to explain it to him, but he totally refuses to believe having
your period is basically a medical situation :(

*SIGH*

Can you adopt me campfire?
lol.

Blessings and love to you and your family.

Im not a parent but having had this experience I think im qualified to
give my input .
When I started my Dad bought me my first piece of adult , expensive
jewelry . It made everything so special and I really felt like a LADY .

in my family...we take the child out and make a day of it. first, we
have a beautiful and relaxing lunch, and then go get a make-over
done...real make-up, the good kind. a full supply is purchased, and
she's taught how to use and apply it the proper way.

after that...maybe a movie or dinner, dressed up and looking spiffy. no
actual mention made of menstruation, just a mention that she's growing
up and forward.

well my daughter was such a b@#$%ch when nshe started i just threw raw
meat....

But the next week i took her to dinner and bought jewlery.
Camplight you are a cool dad.

hehehehe

mine started at age 10. stped for almost a yr, then BOOM!

She was not ready for the experience, and still played in mudpies, and
dirt. She wasn't ready emotionally at all...

Now? Ummm....
Kinda like jackie's daughter.

I can smell the pms, and she gets a wild glint, and can snap, or cry at
any moment.
If I have chocolate, or anything she craves within smeling distance, I
might as well throw it and run for my life!

What's odd is how we've become sorta syncopated. I don't even have the
equiptment to have pms or periods anymore, but be damned if we don't
both get pms together... odd, lol.